I have a friend who used to have a girlfriend who caught herpes from her ex-boyfriend. She used to get a breakout every month. It must have been something to do with her menstrual cycle. Apparently the first outbreak is always the worst and they lessen in severity. You can get anti-virals for herpes. Acyclovir is one I think. There used to be a charity funded herpes helpline in the UK. I don`t know if it still exists but they would be the experts. It might be a good idea to Google and see if they still exist.