Affair..

[sluggy]

Please don't judge me. I know I did wrong but Ive been married for 12 yrs and about 7 yrs ago I got chatting to another married woman online. We live some distance apart but despite this we grew very close and we eventually met up and slept together. Our relationship continued online but we didn't meet again. Eventually it seemed to naturally fizzle out until a couple of years ago when I found her again on facebook. We still talk to each other on there now and again but its not as intense as before. However I still have strong feelings for her and she has told me they are mutual but the it's the distance between us that's a stumbling block. I really want to move on but I just can't get this other woman out my mind. Please don't tell me to concentrate on my marriage because I've tried that. My wife and I do enjoy each others company and we do love each other. I've even taken up hobbies and pastimes and thrown myself into my work to take my mind off her but she's still in my mind all the time. Deep down I know there is no future with this other woman but it's driving me crazy I don't know what to do??

[murraymints]

grass is always greener etc. etc...do not risk your marriage..you only miss what you have when it is gone...

[AlBags]

The grass is always greener ....

In this case .. I really doubt it.

[murraymints]

it can be perceived as greener by the parties involved when not really available option ...

[sluggy]

Many thanks for your responses. I'm not in any other contact with this other woman other than through facebook. We used to talk to each other by phone and txt all the time when we first met so the easy answer would be to delete her from my facebook friends list and forget all about her but that's easy said than done.

[leanne_1987]

i would honestly delete her from your facebook if u dont even think about leaving your wife for her, what would happen if she found out? flirting and talking is ok but what you thinking of in the long run? do u only want to meet up for sex or is the feelings more

[cazzz1975]

maybe the problems in your marriage make your feelings for this woman seem stronger, the reality was that your online relationship with this woman did fizzle. maybe its not the woman, but how the woman made you feel that you want to hold on to?

maybe this woman awakened a spark that you have not felt in life? I would have a long think about what you want out of life before making any rash decisions

[carmalee]

Think what your wife would feel if she knew your thoughts. I couldn't bear being second best so would tell you to get on your bike. But she doesn't know does she? Stop making a fool of your wife and choose - (have to say I think you are a wimp) I know this is harsh but the basis of a marriage is honesty and trust - I feel sorry for your wife.

[chattykathy]

Take a deep breath and delete her from FB and any other contacts you have for her. I feel compelled to tell you this because I didn't and I'm now paying the price. I lost the love of my life and am now utterly miserable because I cheated on my husband. The feeling you have is infatuation but if you concentrate on your wife you will reap the benefits.Good luck to you and your wife for the future

[Jan1957]

I thought your girlfriend was obsessed by a soap star?? So you have a wife, a girlfriend, and someone you are obsessed with on FB. Too confusing for me.

[sara3]

you've been married for 12 years.. so who was your girlfriend here?

http://www.theanswerb...g/Question952917.html

[sara3]

lol, sorry Jan, you beat me to it ;o)

[Jan1957]

There's a faint aroma of bullsh!t in the air sara. :-)

[sara3]

so much so, my eyes are watering!

[chattykathy]

Well spotted, Sara and Jan, perhaps the marriage isn't worth saving!!!

[Jan1957]

But he was single 4 years ago! Another bullsh1tter we think.

[The-Toff-]

sluggy, i am a single man, early thirties, one thing i have learned is to keep away from married women, it will only lead to trouble, sometimes big trouble. i promise.

[sara3]

but this was an exceptional answer he gave..
"sluggy
Remember the date cos you heard it here 1st....
Girl group 'Hope' will win the X-Factor.
Its Simon's show and Simon's group.. No group has won it yet and with rumours of Girls Aloud splitting up in the near future who better to take their place.?
No matter how many votes the other acts get they will be the eventual winners
18:14 Mon 22nd Oct 2007"

another ace post! Hope? who were they again??

[chattykathy]

What an a r s e!

[sara3]

I think we're allowed to say arse now, Kathy...

[sara3]

yep.. knock yourself out, lol!

arse arse arse ;o)