Old women

[Kerry]

Why do old women 40+ go on holidays and have relationships with Turkish waiter, (it always seems to be a waiter, or the hotel porter) a men who is much younger. the relationship always seems to go badly wrong.
Then they freak out when they rip them off, can they not see the signs?

[Kerry]

NOX no i'm not young, im in my 20s.. But women have a built-in builshit raider, regardless of their age, why don't they use it? maybe they lose it with age.
No Dotty I haven't read that.

[Kerry]

Thanks Post dog. Go for it sara, but keep your raider turned on.

[Postdog]

Yeah, in relationships NOX but these aren't realationships. They're fantasies created by a situation and more often than not by two people seeking different things. Many people DO feel they are near they're sell by date anyway, usually because they've wasted life on a unhappy marriage or similar

[sara3]

yeah, not really my bag, but thanks for the advice.

[pastafreak]

Funny...but 'old' women..those past 40...are considered to be in their prime. Hope you will remember this when you are old and 40 ,Kerry.. ;-)

Oh...and being ripped off is certainly not dependent on age.

[craft1948]

My rule is if it's younger than my daughter I say no (now).............

[starone]

Have fun, but don't take it seriously.

[sherrardk]

OMG - I'm an old woman!

(Why do young lads go on holiday, get ratted, pull anything in a skirt, have a fight & get arrested?)

[LoftyLottie]

Perhaps they just want to enjoy themselves. They might have just got rid of their boring old husbands. Let them enjoy their fantasies. They probably know deep down they will get hurt, but let's face it it's better than bingo!!

From an old woman of 64 ;o)


(I haven't done it myself by the way)

[LoftyLottie]

But who knows!!! ;o)

[Kerry]

That's what I say LL. let the oule-ones enjoy themselves, don't go marrying the bloody spongers!

[Kerry]

Starbuck, you're also right, but women seem to be much better at it, but usually the women who are with older men are because they care about them. .I think (S)

[Kerry]

Craft you're also right.

[andy-hughes]

A lot of women in their forties are in their prime sexually. They are often comfortable with themselves, and are happy with a casual holiday relationship.

A lot of young waiters are willing to explot their daily potential for flirtatious contact with said women - if a guy brings you a meal three times a day for a fortnight, the flirting situatiojn is already set up, it simply needs both parties to emnbark on it.

So if you factor in the numbers - thousands of women and waiters / barmen / beach sports sellers, etc., the law of averages means that relationships will grow from these encounters, some more significant than others.

The problems occur when you change the scenario. A lady of leisure looking her best, relaxed and feeling good in the sun, can be a long way from someone who gets up five days a week in rainy England to go to work, and has domestic chores to do on the weekend. A young man briming with sexual energy and happy in his environment may not be quite so attractive when he thinks that sex is all he needs to provide, and incidentals like getting a job and helping around the house don't sem to occur.

Some of these young men are from impoverished backgrounds, and cynically set out to exploit a vulnerable woman, and can change their approach when they have access to the UK and / or a fat bank account.

Of course, all this deals with stereotypes - there are plenty of exceptions, as have been outllined - but its the simple answer to the question asked.

[johnk]

It's just the same with old men!

[netibiza]

let them enjoy the sex and passion but for heaven's sake have some sense when the guys want to marry them and don't have any money, that makes it so obvious.

[whiskeryron]

sara3 //

well I am an old woman (40+) who is heading for Turkey in a few weeks.

I'll do my best to heed Kerry's wise words.//

Go for it gal,fill y'r boots.Ron.

[Safiya]

I totally agree with what nox is saying

[Old_Geezer]

They may think they have a built-in "builshit raider" but it's obviously just making guesses and trusting them.

Assuming this situation is that common then maybe the woman feels she is getting something out of the relationship that makes it worth it ? I'm sure the attention of a younger attractive individual is not exactly unwelcome.

If one knows a holiday romance isn't expected to last, and is sufficiently savvy to question ulterior motives when it seems to be taking a serious turn, then what is the harm. Just need to be careful.

Not young in the 20s, old in the 40s :-D Ha ha ha ha ha PMSL

[andy-hughes]

sara - have you forgotten about us? Sigh ...