co sleeping

[ALLO]

my son is two years old. he wont sleep in his own room. last year my huband broke his arm, since then our son has been sleeping with us. we put him in his own bed when he falls asleep, but within a couple hours hes crawling in bed with  us with his "piddow". he even has his own twin bed with a spider man  bed set. usually either my husband or myself leaves to sleep on the couch. i've had it! how do i get my son to sleep in his own bed?

[netibiza]

.If someone knew the answer they'd be rich.  I had this problem with my daughter and I tried everything - sleeping in her bed and then creeping out - didn't work - the nurse at the clinic said she would get out of it herself naturally which she did at 6yrs - a long time but it will come.  No good getting upset with the child - they love and need your comfort.

[silly moo]

Every time he comes into your bed calmly but firmly take him back to his own, tuck him in and say goodmight.
This will mean several sleepless nights for you but should work as long as you don't give in even once.

Of course some people are quite happy to share their bed with a child for as long as the child seems to need it.
Personally I would prefer a good nights' sleep - childless.

[silly moo]

Netibiza - we posted our different opinions at exactly the same time.

[netibiza]

silly moo great minds think differently lol - I actually also tried taking the child to bed over several years - I also have to point out that it was discovered that my child had a 7 month inner ear problem which doctors didn't discover so she was fretting - thus she was very unsettled and got in the habit of coming into our bed - she also vomitted a lot so if she was in her bed - she'd have to go to ours so I could strip her bed and by then she was asleep. She did not complain and was not obviously ill - so I was a a loss to know why!!

[Otrere]

I agree with Silly Moo 100% but also try putting a stairgate/travel gate in his bedroom doorway - this way he can't "escape" from his room and get into bed with you. It may mean you having a few nights where you're having to re-settle him but in the long run it'll be worth it.

[PAT60DUNNE]

I have a small grandson who lived with us and this was a great problem.  The answer is definitely a stair gate across the doorway of his bedroom. The first few nights he stood at the gate and cried - we all called out we love you, but please go back to bed.  It only took a few more days and he never got up again in the middle of the night.  Good Luck