Opinions please

[roxie_09]

I have recently split up with my boyfriend. It was a mutual agreement, however he has started saying things like "i want the necklace I bought you last christmas back" etc. My question is, is this a reasonable request or just downright childish? TIA xx

[boxtops]

Childish. It was a gift given at the time, not an investment.

[Kassee]

If it was bought for you last Christmas, I would say it was childish ? Maybe you should both write a list of everything you want back from each other, and then that would be an end to it. But you would have to agree to it, both of you. Has he bought you lots of expensive things in the past, and may now be regretting it, feeling he has spent too much of his money. But I still think it is childish.

[rsvp]

Tell him that gifts are gifts and not loans with conditions attached to them. With his attitude I'd say you are well out of it x

[roxie_09]

That's what I think boxtops. I know it was expensive, but it was still a gift. x

[China Doll]

Childish. You can't take gifts back from people you were once in a realtionship with in the same way you can't take back the time you spent with them. I'd ignore him.

[boxtops]

what would he do with it, anyway?

[roxie_09]

He has lent me money to buy a car and laptop, but has always got it back. The necklace was a gift for christmas and I spent just as much on him, on a holiday that I can't take back because we broke up. xx

[cathfromsaron]

childish, or an excuse just to speak to you x

[roxie_09]

From what I can gather he is planning on selling it x

[daffy654]

Tell him to get lost. He gave you the necklace as a gift and it is now your property.

[Teddy_boy]

Personally i think hes being childish.But if you think returning the necklace would keep him out of your hair then its just a matter of what you would prefer .The necklace or the unwanted attention?

[roxie_09]

We've been on speaking terms anyway, before this, as it was amicable, but now he just seems to be childish. There was another ridiculously childish thing he tried stopping me from taking, but won't go into that haha xxx

[Postdog]

Childish. If he's like that you are well rid.

[VHG]

If he insists ask him for half the cost of the holiday you paid for.

Anyway it was a gift and that is that.

[roxie_09]

I just don't know what to do about it, part of me wants to just think bugger it let him keep it, another part of me thinks why should he keep it to sell when it was a present to me. xx

[cazzz1975]

childish, you could ask him to reinburse the cost of the holiday if he is so insistent on being an idiot.

[roxie_09]

I have VHG and his response is simply no. I have thought of with holding 300 pound from money that I owe him, which I am paying him when I get paid this month xx

[boxtops]

well then, tell him if he lets you off the £300, he can have the necklace.

Do you really like it? won't it remind you of him every time you wear it?

[jackthehat]

He's being petulant.
It's yours, he gave it to you.

And he's adding insult to injury by letting you know that he's going to sell it.

[boxtops]

Petulant - that's a lovely word. He's pouting.