Please help me....

[divegirl]

Today I was diagnosed with cervical cancer and I just don't know what to do or where to turn. I've been a member here for a good few years and tbh I don't really know why I'm posting this but I'm sat here alone crying and wondered if anyone had any practical advice form me.

Lisa x

[erin-x]

Aw Lisa... I don't like to think of you being alone at a time like this :( I wish I had some advice but I only have good wishes for you xxx

[starone]

I'm so sorry to hear your news, but don't despair as there are a great many things that can be done to cure cancer these days. My friend was diagnosed three years ago and is still going strong. You can beat this divegirl. Every day they are learning more.

[tinkerbell23]

Divegirl :0(

Big hugs hunny......you have to allow time to be upset, you are shocked And scared....let yourself come to terms with your diagnosis, then dust yourself down and face it head on hunny! Were behind you all the way x

[Ann]

Ah Lisa - I'm so sorry...... have they told you about your treatment? I'm sure you will get through this - i just feel sorry that you are upset tonight and on your own. I will say a little prayer for you x

[giveup]

Get in touch with the Macmillan nurses tomorrow. They will come and see you and give you help and support. Our thoughts are with you.Good Luck.

[Buenchico]

I'm rubbish at 'being supportive' (in the emotional sense), so I won't even try. (NB: That doesn't mean I don't care!!!)

However the doctors either won't have provided you with all of the facts or you'll have simply been too confused to take them all in. So I'll provide this link to the NHS website, which is packed with information.
http://www.nhs.uk/con...ges/Introduction.aspx
Click through the various links (e.g. 'Treatment' and 'Living with, and play the videos, to get a better understanding of your condition).

If you need someone to talk to, pick up the phone tomorrow evening:
http://www.jostrust.org.uk/support/helpline
or call Macmillan on any weekday:
http://www.macmillan....elp/HowWeCanHelp.aspx
(Note that you can enter your postcode, at the foot of that page, to find a local support group).

In the meantime tell yourself that you're still going to enjoy Christmas - because you bloody well deserve it!

With best wishes,

Chris

[ummmm]

So sorry Lisa.

My Mum had it when I was young...she was successfully treated. She's 58 now...it never came back xxx

[tamborine]

You shouldn't be alone, can you phone someone or invite in some company. I hope the treatment works out for you, be strong & live for today, that's all any of us can do. x

[divegirl]

arghhh....just typed out a long answer and it disappeared!

So again....thank you all...my heart broke when I had to tell my children...my daughter just ran out of the house. I'm a single Mum...and though their Dad has been on the phone I just feel so lost and alone. It was like the doctor just said...Hi you have cancer .....bye!

[islasmum]

A horrible shock for you, but great medical advances are being made all the time - my OH's 38 year old daughter had the same type of cancer and was operated on over a year ago, and she's fine now, so lots of help and hope for you out there - and I know lots of people who have had dealings with the Macmillan nurses, and say they are wonderful. My best wishes to you.x

[Mamyalynne]

Lisa

Poor sweetheart, of course you are in shock and night time and being alone will magnify all your fears. As others have said you need sound practical advice about what is to happen next, see this as a journey you will begin and complete - each step will be another to getting this sorted and you better. Huge strides have been made in all treatments and though some may not be pleasant they are all to get you well again.

Keep coming back here and we will theoretically hold your hand and try to help you through it, my heart goes to you having been in a similar though not as serious place in 1978 and look who is still batting.

Allow the fear but try to find strength within to say 'I will beat this'

Lots of Love

Mamya ♥

[ttfn]

Lisa - I would love to be with you right now and give you a hug and talk to you. Sadly I cannot, but I do send you my love, my prayers and once again this. Please watch it and hopefully it will bring you some peace as I know how much your love your Danes ♥
http://www.dogwork.com/ddsff4/

[erin-x]

Some doctors are pretty rubbish when it comes to that sort of thing :|

You should go and listen to the Foo's :-) He's still mine though mind ;-) xxx

[mrsmaveric]

all my love and thoughts are with you divegirl xx

[divegirl]

Thank you for the links Chris, and you are the last person I would call rubbish at anything lol...you do what you do best x

Right now I guess I just need to sleep... I feel like crap but that is just from the emotion of the day :0/ [feel strangely hyped up]I have just what I need tomorrow [not] a day of shopping and lunch followed by taking my nephew to see Santa...
By Wednesday I should be having more tests to see how far it has 'spread' ..... at least then I will know exactly what I'm fighting....and I will fight it!

Lisa x

[Ann]

Good for you! Sleep tight ...... x

[kawakiri]

Hi, my thoughts are with you. I have gone through cancer treatments twice.
I have recently finished a course of external beam radiotherapy for prostate cancer, the time before was back in '96-'97 chemo and radio for Hodgkins Lymphoma. I'm still here and feel fine. So the outlook is not as bad ad you might think.
There are lots of people who you can go to for support if needed, and all us ABers are here.
Again , my thoughts are with you.

[divegirl]

Oh wow...in the time it took me to reply there were so many more beautiful replies.
Thank you all so much...though I am no freely sobbing.... I have loved this site for years and I know you will all be there for me.... bless you all so much.
I'm not totally alone [well I am right now] I do have a couple of really good mates, one of which was at the doctors within minutes today...I think the night time hours are going to be the hardest though...
We [me and the kids] have cried so much today but we have laughed more....and that's the way it's going to be..
Sorry if I'm rambling....but hey get used to it...lol

Lisa x

[divegirl]

Thank you kawakiri....so happy you are doing so well, I just feel like the doctor I saw today was very....pessimistic.... really didn't help. I just want the next lot of test results in so I know what I'm up against. Unfortunately because of the holidays I fear they may be delayed. Just want to know now!
Oh and just to clarify...this was a abnormal smear result that showed a carcinoma... so it's there, I just don't know how bad.

Lisa x

[ummmm]

Lisa...fliptheswitch's sister is going through the same thing....maybe you can chat with her xx