Why would my ex want to meet up?

[lourules]

Me and my ex split up last June. We had been together for 5 years. He told my friends when they ever mentioned me that he didnt want to know about me as it upset him. Anyways, i have some of his stuff still and i texted him to say i have it and shall i post it to him? He said why not meet up for a meal and i can hand it over and we can catch up?
I said ok and that day was meant to be today. I ended up getting caught at work late so couldnt make it. I texted him to say it was probably for the best we didnt meet up anyways. When he asked why i said "because i still love you"
He said "well. its up to you. i dont want to complicate things for you. but i dont want to never see you again" So i said i would meet up tonight for a drink later on. He said he was too busy himself so i said "ah lets just leave it, ill mail your items and have a nice life" I wasnt being funny. Just to the point.
He messaged me back saying "dont be like that, come out thursday for a meal im free all day?"

I dont get why he wants to meet for a meal? Surely if he just wanted his items back we'd just meet in a carpark and that would be that. Why does he want to catch up? Surely if he still felt something for me still he would have told me by now? Im so confused....

[cathfromsaron]

i would beware!

box it all up and meet in public place!

have a nice life ... au revoir!

[lourules]

this is it. why do you think hes asking me to go for a meal? I dont get it. if he didnt wanna know about me no more surely he wouldnt wanna do this? Yet surely if he felt something for me still he would just tell me?

[Purple_Popple]

He is messing you around, please just cut the ties and leave it in the past, you will only get hurt again, been in a very similar situation where my ex kept arranging to meet up for a meal then cancelling last minute, he knew how I felt about him all the time, I wish I had never let my emotions get in the way, when we did finally meet it was for his personal financial gain, turned out he needed my signature to cash in a joint policy. He text me after we met to say 'Thanks for meeting, I know it was difficult for you' - cheeky patronising devil !

[lourules]

omg purple thats awful!

[EvianBaby]

He is having a moment. He is probably feeling a bit sorry for himself and wants to remember what it was like before he was single. He wants a bit of attention. If you want nothing to do with him thats your choice, dont pander to him.

[lourules]

see this is the thing. i want to be with him. i just dont get why he wants to meet all of a sudden? and when i say no i cant make it he says please try to. people might say to that "he might want to tell you he wants you back" but surely he would have done it by now been 8 months! or he would have texted me by now. i just dont get why hes so bothered x

[Voulez-vous]

Box it all up and send it.
He likes that you still have feelings for him. Cut him off.
If he really wanted you back he would say.
You need to go "cold turkey".
Make him GO completely and try to get on with your life.

[EvianBaby]

Ive had similar purple. Although he didnt ask me for any money its pretty much always for selfish reasons. I split up with my ex the same time as you Lou and finally told him where to stick it once and for all a couple of weeks ago after realising every time he wanted to meet it was all just about him. Have felt a million times better since now i can focus on other things without having to think about him. Tell him to do one.

[Prudie]

Maybe after 5 years together he still wants to stay friends and nothing more. It's not unusual for exes to become friends after all the break-up hurt is behind them. I have a couple of past loves who I meet up with now and again. It doesn't mean anything.

[mickrog]

maybe he has the urge and thinks you are his best chance......avoid

[lourules]

if i just wanted to be friends with an ex and they said "i still love you" id make it clear to them i just want to be friends in a nice way and he hasnt done that...?

[EvianBaby]

And if hes trying to win you back he isnt making much effort is he when he keeps cancelling on you.

[Purple_Popple]

Really confusing situation, esp. when you still have deep feelings for him. Men just seem to turn off their emotions and feelings and not care...when you invested all that time loving them. grrrr.

[joggybear]

been there done that-he wants attention and sex most likely as said above

[lourules]

ill go and see what he has to say for himself

[boxtops]

whyever did yo tell him that you still love him? - no wonder he's looking to see you.

[lourules]

i told him because he asked me why i didnt want to see him anymore. i cant lie to him

[mickrog]

he thinks hes on a promise now.....enjoy

[lourules]

wow he would have to be a low life scum bag to use me after we were engaged for 2 years together and living with each other for 5.... :-/

[pizza]

MMM soz hun he finds it hard to move on but doesn't want accept your not with him, his words just tease you as you know he just can't move on but you know you need to x