low today

[Connemmara]

Feeling a bit low today - I live on my own with my little dog and sometimes the silence of the house can be quite loud and it can be difficult to get out off bed. Anybody out there on their own and how do you cope. Thanks - visited a friend in hospital yesterday so I am ashamed of feeling this way.

[DTCwordfan]

so what and where are you doing/going this afternoon.......?

[Connemmara]

I am actually going to visit my sister - she lost her only child/son 7 years ago and whilst we "fight" she is good for my morale. Don't tell her that. Thanks DT for replying.

[yogasun]

Oh, that's a shame, you can't always help how you feel even though you know you should be grateful compared to other people's problems.
Do you belong to any organisations or have any good friends locally?

[Connemmara]

I do have good friends but right now they are coming through quite difficult times - most of them believe it or not and I don't want to bother them with my problem.

[ummmm]

A good friend wouldn't mind.

[ummmm]

Regardless of what was going on in my life I would hate for one of my friends to be suffering in silence.

[DTCwordfan]

I am glad that you are heading out to see her and ummmm is right, good friends will share - it's both ways in friendship you know!

I was going to suggest something positive like a visit to an art gallery or museum, a local pub for a drink and perhaps lunch and sit at the bar as folk will always chat, even doing a little shop for Christmas and/or perhaps picking up a little treat for dinner, be it cheese, wine or dessert - or all three!

[pusskin]

A good friend is some one who is always there for you.
She or he listens and puts their problems aside for you to pour your heart out.
i can do this with one or two friends, and thats very reassuring to know.
Hope you feel much better as the day goes on Connemmara x

[Connemmara]

Thanks everybody for your replies - it is nice of you to reply. I do get a little heartsome with them.

[windywillow]

Sorry to hear you're feeling low. Please don't feel ashamed, there is absolutely no need.

I used to live on my own and although I had a busy job and saw people all day during the week, I got very lonely in the evening and at weekends. I do understand how you feel.

The good thing about AB is that there is almost always someone around to talk to, and I find the time flies once I start reading the threads. Sometimes I've laughed so much, I've cried. It's helped me a lot. I hope it does you too.

[hellywelly4]

Hello. I do sympathise. I manage by always having the radio on during the day, usually tuned to the local station which for me is BBC Radio Lincolnshire. Over the years they have become almost friends. It's also useful for telling me if there's anything of interest on that I could go to. I know what you mean about friends having problems too, you feel like you're bothering them if you tell them how you feel. Have you got any charity shops near to you? I volunteer for the local hospice one, and we have a great time. I only go once a fortnight, but it helps. Some people actually go into the hospice to help in various ways but I'm too far away for that.
Hope this helps a bit, but don't be ashamed, we all get low times. Sending a hug.

[DTCwordfan]

what connemmara needs is one of these Cornish clouds, coming in on the storms here......sibton got one yesterday.

http://farm3.staticfl...68c8a05e7d_z.jpg?zz=1

[tonyav]

Bloody hell DT, thats one scary looking cloud.

[DTCwordfan]

bear hug though......

[tonyav]

Ah yes.

[parkie]

Do you know any CBers who live close to you Con?
Could be the start of a beautiful friendship.
My OH and I belong to U3A which has so many interesting subjects we cannot possibly do them all.

[Georgiesmum]

Where abouts do you live? I have health problems ,. I am registered blind, have hereditary lung disease andsuffer with arthritis. I forget about that and do what i can to help otheres. I recently invited a group of ladies round to me house for tea and a fresh cream cake each, all free of course. They varied from lonely people, people with cancer and people who had recently lost husbands, as i did myself 5 years ago. They stayed for four hours! and they all seemed to go away a lot happier. I will definately be doing that again.
Could you invite any of your friends neighbours round for something similar? Lots of ladies enjoy tea and a chat. x

[Dee Sa]

what can we do to help connemmara ? we are here to chat but what else would help you to cope, dont ever be ashamed we have all been there at sometime in our life. God bless [ no I am not one bit religious] and I hope all these kind replies will help a bit.
Dee

[Connemmara]

Thanks everyone for your replies. Like I said in my earlier posting visited my sister and to me is strong and I somehow get strength from her. Feel better - have a chicken cooking as my sister comes to me every Sunday - has for the last 40 years. Ta!!!