Do I ask if we're just friends?

[EvianBaby]

So I've been out with this guy a couple of times. We seem to get on really well and he texts me all the time. Thing is I can't work out if he's actually interested in that way and maybe just not very forthcoming or if he feels like he's just made a new friend. I kind of want to know if I'm flogging a dead horse and avoid making a tit of myself but as we've only known each other a few weeks is a bit much much if I just come out and say what's the deal?

Jees, I feel like I'm bloody 16!

[EvianBaby]

I know he's not with anyone. If he is then they are very understanding about the amount of contact he has with other women. Lol

Guess ill just wait, which may be hard for someone as impatient as me :)

[mccfluff]

my opinion, if he was into you he would of tried it on by now, even if it was just a kiss

[Psybbo]

Not if he is looking for a serious relationship, fluff

[EvianBaby]

Would you ask him if you were in my position fluff?

[askyourgran]

He's probably wanting to be sure about his feelings before committing himself, let a bit of friendship grow before jumping into the heavy stuff. Although if you haven't had a goodnight snog yet I would be wondering what was up with me. Keep the relationship open and don't give up on anyone else on the horizon.

[lcg]

right. you like him and he likes you....which is good. however, you are wondering whether he really, really likes you....that he's 'into you'. the only way to do that, i'm afraid, is to ask, evian! it is totally grown up to do so....and you do have to offer your feelings and heart on a plate to people - not knowing whether they do, in fact love you.....or you will get your feelings trampled on. but you know what they say: no pain, no gain! be brave, sweetie! x x

[lcg]

and yes...i would ask him out and see if he wanted to take things seriously. be bold and ask him if he sees you (or could see you) as a proper girlfriend x

[mccfluff]

evian is a good looking girl, imo he would of tired for a kiss minimum.

eb i have no idea im rubbish but i probably would say something after one or two....

[magsmay]

ok -avoid like the plague sentences that start <where do you see us going from here> to me that sounds like your're planning your wedding! You're a gorgeous girl so either hes a)gay or b) very shy C0 not interested and obviously blind ;-) -you can't do anything about a) or c) so work on the b) alternative -use your womanly wiles -maybe old fashioned but hormones are hormones my girl -get him going invite him over for a 'meal' -if he declines well at least you'll know where you stand -if he accepts get out those asparagus spears and work them girl lol!

[Psybbo]

Good advice, magsmay

[The Builder]

I've been in this situation many times with online dating Evian. Much the same for guys I think. All the texting is a good sign. When in that situation, just accept it .......... you ARE 16 again ;o)
I never push it. Maybe I should, but when and if the texts fizzle out, then you know where you are, and move on.
For now, just keep talking. It'll resolve one way or another.

[Tilly2]

Is this the bloke who asked you to the fireworks bash?

[boxtops]

I don't understand the terminology these days. If I go out on a date with a bloke, we're going out. why do you think you're not, when you've already been out with him a couple of times?

[Tilly2]

If it is the bloke you've been out with twice, do not mention anything about 'where this might be going' It's very early days.

[EvianBaby]

I'm glad I asked this just for the laugh its given me. It's not online dating but I guess it doesn't make it any different.

We've been on a couple of dates boxy, I wouldn't quite consider him my boyfriend.

Tilly, yeah it's the guy I went to the fireworks with.

Maybe ill have a bottle of wine and decide for there. Or not. :)

[silliemillie]

How did it go at the fireworks? Did you meet his mates as arranged?
Were they friendly to you?

[Zacs-Master]

Life's far too short. Just ask him 'are we going out or what?' If not, move on before you get too emotionally involved.

[grasscarp]

I have spent a whole life never asking anyone if we are friends or anything else. Things just develop if both of you are interested in each other. If you ask and it scares him off you will regret it. Just carry on as friends as this is early days and see how it goes.

[joeluke]

He's just not that into you

[MissCommando]

Sorry to say but I think he would have shown a bit of affection towards you if he fancied you. Sounds like he just wants to be friends.