Lovers Over Friends?

[Scarlett]

Why is it that when friends hook up with a new boyfriend/girlfriend they drop everything and make that person the centre of their universe? Just because that person has sex with them, they become instantly the person they want to be with all the time, including important days like birthdays, Christmas, New Year etc. Friends have to hang around in the background until they split up (which they usually do). I feel like the 'lovers' have not earned this dedication and worship, and the friends, for their years of love and support, are always left behind. Has this happened to you- either as a friend or the one who loses their brain when a new lover comes on the scene?

[Zacs-Master]

You've obviously never been in love scarlett.

[ladyalex]

Happens to everyone, Scarlett.
You just have to live with it.

[Scarlett]

I don't even think it's love though, Zac's-Master. It's just what happens when people get it on.

[ChillDoubt]

You've obviously never been in love scarlett.
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Nor in lust I reckon!

[pixie373]

Yes. It's completely normal to start with. It should settle down when the relationship is established (or finished).

[Zacs-Master]

Maybe you should be pleased for them.

[Canary42]

Casual one-night-sex is so much more emotionally satisfying of course.

[ummmm]

It's just what you do. Most friends understand that.

Would you think it strange when married people spend birthdays, xmas and new year together?

[Scarlett]

No, married is different. I mean the initial stages, when two people have just met and barely know each other- the first few months. When friends hook up with a new boyfriend / girlfriend.

[ummmm]

Lust then :-) Animal instinct.

[Sqad]

Haven' you heard the term " I can' t get enough of her/him?"

[Mamyalynne]

It is totally natural, you develop a kind of tunnel vision - just you and your new love in a bubble. Good friends accept this and are there for the long haul, either be there when things settle down or otherwise.

[piggynose]

i real new lover/girlfriend/boyfriend etc will insist that you dont stop seeing your mates. well its usually in my case, mind you i'm not a soppy teenager

[sandyRoe]

Would 'Friends with benefits' provide the best of both worlds?

[woofgang]

In the beginning, people are trying to learn each other. once they know if the relationship is working or not then they can relax and refocus....btw is that the green eyed monster talking??

[ummmm]

You could do what I did and go out with your best mate. Problem solved...

[Butterbun]

Just part of life Scarlett. A friend has to be there to help pick up the pieces later if it all falls apart or if it does last, they might be a bridesmaid/bestman. Who knows. That's what being a real friend is.

[carrust]

Do you go out with a rabbit ummm;-)

[ummmm]

No but he doesn't look similar to a durecell battery....

[boxtops]

I've never dropped my friends when I've had a new relationship - you never know when you might need them.