Cheating

[Missfaye]

After one or both partners have been unfaithful can the relationship strengthen and move on?

[ChillDoubt]

This question appears to be a polar opposite to your other recent one:

http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/Health-and-Fitness/Question1321769.html

If the two are connected I'd give very serious thought to what you're attempting in the other.....

[Missfaye]

It's an experience I've been through, 3 years ago we are stronger than I can ever imagine was a question I was pondering to see if anyone else has had similar experience or differs to.

[ChillDoubt]

It's an experience I've been through, 3 years ago we are stronger than I can ever imagine
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You will have to forgive my cynicism and I'm not casting aspersions but I'm almost tempted to say:

Until the next time.

Have you both given serious thought and discussion to the other issue, or is it only your agenda and something only you believe will cement things?
If it is only from your side you need to have a very long chat with your partner.

[Cloverjo]

I'm glad it has worked out with you. It didn't for me. I tried to forgive and forget, but the relationship floundered anyway.
Good luck with trying for a baby. You are about the same age as me and I couldn't imagine starting again with a new little one, even though I do get very broody sometimes.

[Sqad]

Yes of course, I do not know about " strengthen" that depend upon how fragile it was before the incident, but it can indeed survive.

That scenario of a relationship rocked by infidelity is played out over and over again every day oft he week.

[Purple_Popple]

Once a cheater, always a cheater I'm afraid.

[Prudie]

Only if you are both the right type. Personally it's never worked out for me.

[puddle-duck]

It depends on how forgiving the partner who has been cheated on is. If you can forgive and move on, then yes, but I would suspect there would always be doubts. For me it's a deal breaker. Once a cheater always a cheater.

[B00]

Yes

[anneasquith]

the relationship strengthens, id say no !

[grasscarp]

If you have indeed strengthened your relationship then you know it is possible. Nobody has same experience as another couple. Some move forward together some split. For sure you know that the other is able to look elsewhere and an amount of trust is gone.

[Canary42]

In my case the relationship withered and died.

But good luck.

[mariostewart62]

Move On..

[joeluke]

Yes, mine did

[TWR]

I made a mistake 16 years ago, it was caused by my Wifes daughter, I left & ended up with another, she turned out to be an alcholic, a few months after I left, the wifes daughter found a flat, it has / been the biggest mistake of my life, my wife stood by me, I shall never ever forget my mistake, to put the error of my life to rest I wrote and put music to a song & got it released for the both of us, The Song, " DON'T LOOK BACK" it has never been mensioned again, I hope this may lp you.x

[albaqwerty]

imo. it would depend upon the reason for the cheating.

[berniecuddles]

its a good job me and you don't do that sort of thing albs x

[ummmm]

It's not something that I would forgive, regardless of the reason, although I do understand why some people do stray.

[Old_Geezer]

It depends on the couple involved and the circumstances. I don't think this is a black and white yes/no question. But it is a hurdle to be dealt with in any event.