Why Does He Like To Stares And Smile At Me A Lot?

[Sloaneyurotic]

So I met this guy online, and my intention is pure hook up.
We have been sleeping regularly for about three weeks now.
He always stay over at my place, even though he has to go to work the next morning, and he even let me stay over at his place (again, even though he has to go to work the next morning).
He likes to cuddle, before and after sex.
When we sleep, he always draw me closer to him, whether he spoons me or me facing him.
The activities we do is not limited in the bedroom only, we go out in public to.
All I wanted was a simple hook up. The classic wham bam thank you ma'am. No fuss no muss.
And now I have to deal with all this cuddling thing, and lately what bothers me the most is (I've never realized this before) that he likes to stare at me ALOT.
especially when we are on bed (not having sex). And he also smiles whilst he stares at me.
so he smiles and stares at me a lot.
it's not that creepy smile. it's the cute smile.

my point is:
do guys take their hook up partner out (drinking, go to cinema, etc etc), cuddle before&after sex, and stare&smile at the same time at them?
does he even know that all i want is a hook up and hook up only?
thanks x

[sandyRoe]

Could he be in love? Whatever that is.

[Baldric]

Have you actually mentioned to him what it is you want?

[Baldric]

and don't want?

[scorpiojo]

Then why stay over if you don't want 'all this cuddling thing'?

[Mamyalynne]

//does he even know that all i want is a hook up and hook up only? //


It might have been polite if you had told him from the start.

[Sloaneyurotic]

@scorpiojo because whenever we end up at my place, I dont have the heart to tell him to go.

@Baldric & @MamyAlynne by meeting him online, I mean thru Tinder. Everybody knows you use tinder to find hook up. So I figured he'd already know my intention :/

[Mamyalynne]

Don't know 'Tinder' so if that is the case, he knew but against the odds he seems to have fallen for you.

Let him down gently and he may go find the love of his life elsewhere.


I take it from the tone of your post, you have no desire to find love?

[craft1948]

" And he also smiles whilst he stares at me.
so he smiles and stares at me a lot."

Is he on drugs?

[Svejk]

must be scary, someone, like, actually smiling at you an' stuff.

[scorpiojo]

Sloaneyurotic, I'm a bit confused. You say that you only wanted a hook up, yet you've stayed over at his place and been to the cinema/out drinking with him. Do you actually want more from the relationship?

[Sloaneyurotic]

@craft1948 no he's not on drug

@Svejk of course it's scary. before i knew it, i'd think: is there something on my teeth?

@Mamyalynne I have let down him gently by never texting him first. I would love to find love, but soon I'll be moving to another country and I dont want long distance relationship, so right now, I'll just stick to physical pleasure

[scorpiojo]

Crossed posts, ignore mine.

Did you ever see tube guy again?

[Sloaneyurotic]

@scorpiojo no, i dont have any intention to bring this to the next level.
Should I just say no the next time he ask me out?
and say: 'just come over and do me', instead?

[Sloaneyurotic]

@scorpiojo sadly, no. haha. maybe that's the only time he took circle line.

[scorpiojo]

I think you should tell him what you want (or don't want) from this relationship.
Have you told him you're relocating?

[Mosaic]

I'm guessing the poor fellow's thinking how fantastic and undemanding yet loving you are. What you seem to be doing used to be called 'breaking someone's heart'. I expect this has been overridden in present times by 'getting what I want'.

[kvalidir]

He might be more into you than you are him and thinking about perhaps sliding you into a relationship or he might just be a nice guy who sees nothing wrong with treating his 'sleeping' buddies nicely.

[Old_Geezer]

Different folk do different things; but it sounds s if you hooked him. Did you make it clear what you were looking for from the off, or have you been leading him on ?

[Old_Geezer]

Ah I see folk have asked. I don't see you can assume folk sees everything the way you do. You need to talk to him, not just go cold and blow off the relationship. That would not be a mature way to handle it.