When i first read your post, i thought. 'Ooh never heard of passive aggressive, i shall Google it'. And i did and my goodness.......this is the man i was married to for 20 years!! I left him in 2007 and divorced him in 2008, i always said to people that he was a 'control freak' and an 'emotional bully' because i just didnt think there was an exact diagnosis! Wow, it felt so good to read about it, for the best part of 20 years i'd questioned my own behaviour. (Always being put down, told i was thick, and his famous put down was that everything i touched turned to s??t ) then sulking his way through days when i retaliated! He is now with someone else, and when i have to see them with regards to our daughter, he is EXACTLY the same with her! (Poor cow). Just sorry i didnt leave sooner!
I hope you manage to manage. : )