I Feel As If Im Bothering My Guidance Teacher? This Is Important, Need Advice!!?

[joannemcelvie]

Im 16 and im a high school. The past year has been really difficult for me s my best friend died, ive been having family problems and I have been feeling very down for large periods of time.

I used to talk to my school guidance teacher about things but then i felt as if I was annoying him because i always had a lot going on that I wanted to talk to him about. I felt as if I couldnt talk to anyone other than him so it was always him i landed stuff on.

I tried to stop talking to him as much because i realised that he had 200 other pupils to help and it wasnt just me. I started to bottle things up and it got too much for me. I started having frequent panic attacks and one of the other guidance teachers noticed this so he started helping me.

He did a lot for me like taking me to the doctors and listening to all my stupid problems. I started to feel as if I was annoying him too.

Talking to this teacher would always be the highlight of my week and I would always look forward to the next time I could have a chat with him. Recently I started self harming because of stuff going on in the house so my friend (who also self harms) told him for me and we had a chat about it. He gave me some advice then said "we'll talk soon".

Now that he knows that I self harm, im not sure what the kind of things are that i should tell him about because i dont want to be telling him everything or i'll be with him 24/7.

I just really dont want to be bottling things up anymore.

Please help me? x
Update : Im also not sure how often I should be talking to him without it getting too much?

[anneasquith]

you're teacher went with you to a doctors appointment ?

[woofgang]

Its their job, if you need them speak to them. If they are finding its too much then they will sort other help for you.

[jim360]

I don't think that the guidance teacher would mind if you spent a lot of time with him. At this point, probably the opposite in fact: it's clear that you need help and someone to talk to, so if you stopped talking or went to see him less then he might well get even more concerned.

It is always very difficult to talk about your own problems, as they can feel difficult to share, or embarrassing, and you might even fear becoming a burden. Although it can be hard to accept, none of these fears are justified and you should try to relax about overworking or annoying your guidance teacher. If you need a long time in support and talking with him then he will almost certainly provide it.

[Canary42]

I don't think you should add the anxiety of over-burdening your support teachers to your existing worries - they're professionals who can cope with just this sort of thing.

As an alternative you could try the Samaritans - they're not just for potential suicides.

http://www.samaritans.org

Or perhaps try Childline - they cover uo to 19-year olds - have a browse of their website for starters:-

http://www.childline.org.uk/pages/about.aspx

[mariostewart62]

Hi,
I personally feel that instead of bottling things it is better that you talk to your teacher and even your teacher won't mind. You need to speak up or else your panic attacks will continue so please don't bother about the frequency of meetings and speak out whatever you want to and don't self harm please.