Pre Wedding Squabbles

[tinkerbell23]

Did anyone find this whole wedding thing soooo stressfull?

I feel like are squabbling loads because the wedding is weeks away!

Im snowed under! Probs isnt helping that i didnt have a great start to the year mood wise.

Never ever questioned IF i want to marry him- i do!! ..... X

[Mamyalynne]

We didn't,everything was simple fast and if something went wrong then 'so what'.

You just have to try to delegate, accept help if offered and remember if something goes a bit wrong, you'll laugh at it afterwards.

[tonyav]

tinks, who do you feel like squabbling with ?.

[tonyav]

Good advice that, Mamya.
I just handed over loads of dosh !.

[sherrardk]

I remember himself telling my mother (by phone) that it was all off because she kept on trying to 'help'.

[Butterbun]

It's called 'pre-wedding nerves'. Do what mamya says, I'm sure everything will be fine. good luck.

[tinkerbell23]

I have had it out a few times with my own parents.... Its been constant calls texts emails.. Even when i was abroad on my hen!!! Im talking 7 calls a day sometimes..

It feels like every time i check my phone someone wants something....
It makes me and mr tinks squabble more than id like.

Its actually really hard! Lol! I dont mean to sound ungreatfull at all. Ive never done this before!!!!!!!

Its all consuming actually! Even after nightshift i feel like i have to stay awake & do wedding things. The pressures on. Even on my break in work!!!

X

[tinkerbell23]

I dont feel nervous or like i shouldnt marry him.

We are not perfect (who is) .... It feels like weve just had loads of silly arguments recently. Typical man he hasnt done much for the wedding lol x

[sherrardk]

It's normal, try not to dwell on it and remember to enjoy your day, it goes so quickly.

[tonyav]

tinks, has Mamya says can you not delegate some of this stuff.

[tinkerbell23]

Yes some things i have!!

Somehow still feels like there are 10000 things to do .... X

[sherrardk]

Breathe!!!

[jourdain2]

We sorted things out ourselves, then told the family the date and time. A sort of elopement, really, 'but you can come along and wish us well and a party is arranged.......'

Worked brilliantly, everyone turned up, brought champagne etc.. A happy day, enjoyed by all.

It's your wedding. Think about what is important and stop squabbling. If it's imperfect - well, that's fine, it's your wedding and it went in whatever way it went. Relax and have a great day! :)

[tonyav]

Theres a lot to be said about elopement, jourdain.


Has sherr say's, the day will go by in a flash, tinks.

[tonyav]

tinks, do you have a list ?, and if the do have you ticked off the the things that are sorted / arranged.

[tinkerbell23]

Its more of a folder LOL x

[tonyav]

tinkerbell23
Question Author
Its more of a folder LOL x

I thought it probably would be ;-)
But are you ticking stuff off ?.

[tinkerbell23]

Yes i am. Invites are out- thats a load off!!!

Its like you are supposed to be loved up and excited when really you are stressed out and wanting to kill everyone PMSL x

[tonyav]

You've gotta try and chill a bit, tinks.
How long to go ?.

[ummmm]

Tinks...don't stress..it'll be fine.

Love your FB vid :-D

[Retrochic]

yes,from experience brides turn into bridezilla,everything goes to plan then they feel sheepish afterwards for being such a bovine to people who were trying to help -most people understand. You want a big wedding, well you have to take the anxiety that goes with it. You could of course just go and get married quietly with two witnesses and have a pub meal afterwards -and save around £10k and your mental health. lol!