What Would You Do

[Ric.ror]

Here's the thing
I went for a drink and a bite to eat on Wednesday with a friend and we arranged to meet today at teatime to visit a new pub and go for a meal to a local gastro pub
I called her earlier to confirm and then text her twice once to change the meeting place.
On the bus on the way there she called me to tell me she could not make it as she had been to her works do and drinking all afternoon
I was furious- not least because some of my colleagues were having a few drinks and invited me to that!
She has since text me (twice actually) to say she could meet me in 30 mins!
I'm so mad I'm not even replying
If she'd told me in the first place I could have gone with them
How would you feel?

[yogi-bear]

A bit peeved, but know these things happen, which may not be her fault..... she sounds keen to, perhaps, make it up to you, so I would meet her, ric......nothing to lose, everything to gain.

Enjoy yourselves, if you meet her. :-)

Take her clubbing..... I'm in Brighton tonight.

[Baldric]

"Frankly my Dear!!!!"

[Ric.ror]

It's not the fact she did it - it's the fact she didn't ring to say she wasn't coming - I could have gone out too
I'm too mad to talk to her at the moment

[Mamyalynne]

Yes, I'd feel let down - but I'd try to make the best of the rest of the evening.

Unless for you that friendship is now over?

[Mamyalynne]

Cross posted, fair dos.

[Baldric]

Your Avatar sows you as (possibly) Male, your Profile says your Female, difficult to gauge a reaction imo.

[Baldric]

Shows ^^^ not sows ........ Doh!

[Mamyalynne]

Ric is female.

[yogi-bear]

That's a no, then, I take it?

Forgive and forget maybe, ric?

If, when in my younger days, I got the hump when a girlfriend couldn't make a date, I wouldn't have any some days!.... perish the thought.

We just rearranged, looked into each other's eyes, and went for it. :-)

[Cloverjo]

I'd be very peed off. I had a friend like that. I don't see her any more. I miss her because she was a great friend, but I don't miss all the messing about she gave me.
If you still want her as your friend tell her what you've told us, but don't expect her to change.

[yogi-bear]

Oooops...I did it again!

(Where's me coat!)

[Prudie]

As I understand it she does still want to go out tonight be it somewhat later. If it was a friend who's normally a bit flaky and fickle I wouldn't be that upset as I'd know she was often unreliable.

[Ric.ror]

I'm just about to send her a text saying
Never mind - maybe another time

I'm still furious- it's the fact she didn't let me know more than missing a night out- I consider that to be extremely bad mannered

[Cloverjo]

I agree ric.ror.
My friend pretended to be stuck at work, so couldn't go out, but I could see on my caller ID that she was at her house. I could have had a night out with someone else.

[yogi-bear]

Still think you should take her clubbin' :-)


(Got me coat!)

[Ric.ror]

I'm too old to go clubbing
The point was we were going for a few quite drinks - a bite to eat and then be home for 9ish
Again it's the rudeness of it that's so galling
Never mind I've sent her a text now

[-Talbot-]

Women!

[Berniecuddles2]

talbot you beat me to it !!! lol

[woofgang]

I was taught from childhood that you never dump an invitation that you have accepted if something else comes up...so yes i’d be peeved...except well....maybe she didn’t expect the works do to be an all afternoon affair, just a quick lunchtime drink...and maybe she lost track of time? I think it depends on how good a friend she is and how often she lets you down?

[anneasquith]

You could have had a glass of wine whilst waiting for , now you are going home hungry, and angry,