19 And Guys Only Want To Have Sex With Me And It’S Destorying My Self Esteem And Confidence

[Girl2699]

Hello I’m 19 years old going to starting college next year. And I use to get bullied for how long my nose was. But now I’m older I grew into my looks, kinda and people compliment me by telling me I’m pretty and etc. And I was never the type to hop around with guys or talk to a bunch of guys, I am shy and some what anti social around people. During my freshman year I started talking to this guy and he would talk to me everyday; so In my junior year I had sex with him ( lost my virginity) but our relationship came to a end when he cheated and said we wasn’t in a relationship but he loved me. And I am a teenager whose never been in a serious relationship out the public all my relationship have been on low and didn’t last for 2 weeks because guys pressure me for sex or sexual things. And I know I shouldn’t worry about looking for someone but I do dream of
Someone being in love with me and not ashamed to let people know we are together. And one boy told me I was only good for sex and nothing else. And guys treat me like it. I only had sex with one person

But I just wanted to know what are some reasons guys would only keep me in dark and things why would I be disrespected like this

[Pyxis]

It seems to me that you are meeting rather immature guys at the moment, which is fair enough, as they are all probably rather young.

You might find that when you start college you will meet a wider range of people with a wider range of maturity as far as relationships are involved.

Even so, 19/20 is still very young in the grand scheme of things, so rather than hankering for love, look towards making friends of both sexes, and developing those sorts of relationships.

Above all, don't be pressurised into doing anything you don't want to.

[waterboatman]

Girl 2699 That is sound advice from pyxis.

[Old_Geezer]

Maybe you're attracted to the wrong sorts of guys. Sure all probably want sex, but only some are so aggressive that they insist on that alone and don't take the other person's needs into consideration. I assume you mean unsociable rather than antisocial; my advice is to come out of your comfort zone and meet more individuals and get a wider group of friends, some you'll find are more sensitive to others than those who presently 'try their luck' with you. Then you might find someone more suitable to get into a relationship with. (Always good to keep a winning formula but change a failing one.) Make the change in your life, yourself, find the situations you experience change in tandem.

[paddywak]

Please don't worry about it too much,It's what guys do at that age.I can remember vaguely,it was a long time ago,being obsessed with trying to get girls to "do it" usually with no success, but after a while you realise that nice as it can be there's more to a proper relationship then sex.You're only young go out and enjoy yourself,meet people and make friends but what ever you do don't, do something you don't really want to do and will regret later,remember the old saying everything comes to he who waits.One day you'll meet that right person and you'll look back and wonder what you used to worry about.

[Peter Pedant]

// remember the old saying everything comes to he who waits//

yeah sister wendy died last week at age 88
so we can say she sure waited a long time ....

I am not sure if I can say anything sensible as I first read this as "only 19 guys want to have sex with me"
partially sighted
and my mind is still reeeeeeeling at the thought