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Love at First sight???
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Does anyone actually believe that this is possible - to fall in love at first sight? if so, how does this happen? is it just one of them OMG moments or is it really just a lust thing? ... or does it just get confused with a really huge sparky chemistry between the 2 people? rather than a love thing? anyway any suggestions or ideas on the subject would be greatly appreciated... whether for or against this idea. Oh and i do hope I have explained what i mean... not so good on the old communicado but i try thank u for ur replies xxx
PS - not necessarily love at first sight but having met them a couple of times briefly do you think its possible for an individual to have a really good feeling about this person i.e. its just a meant to be thing?
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It depends on what your definition of love is and what kind of love. Personally for me , in the 'one my God , he's the one' sense , then no , I don't believe in love at first sight. I accept that there are a number of couples whose love lasts the test of time and their relationship survives long term , however I believe that for the majority of us , this is not the case and relationships built on this kind of basis quickly fizzle out. I don't think that you really get to know someone well enough until you live with them. This is when you discover their little quirks and idiosyncrasies and if you can put up with them and vice versa , then that's half your battle. I do believe though that people can pick up on good vibes from others though and feel drawn to them , sensing similarities. The only time I have experienced real love at first sight and known that it was the genuine article and that my feelings would never ever change , was when I gave birth to my three children. A mother's love is bountiful and always unconditional. Why do you ask , are you in love ?
I don't know about love at first sight because how can you possibly have such strong feelings when you lay eyes on someone for the first time. But I met Mr Happy 11 years ago and I saw him standing by the bar in a pub and as I liked what I saw I went up to him and we chatted and as they say 'the rest is history'. We've been together since and still love eachother just as much. I think when you meet the right person you just know somehow.
No im not in love.... but i have met someone lately and even tho its complicated.. i know she likes me and i just hav a good vibe about the whole thing despite it being complicated and then it just got me wandering onto the idea of love at 1st sight thing. But i am definitely not in love with her... what i know of her i really like and would like to get to know her much better.... as theres a definite spark and chemistry between us both...and i was just thinking you know what... sometimes its just good to do what feels right and throw caution to the wind and sod everything else!
However on the subject of love at first sight someone i used to work with said she knew as soon as she saw her husband in a pub she used to go to ... she knew straight away that this was the guy she was going to marry... and in a way i can kind of understand that sometimes you just get a good feeling about things and you just have to go with them.
From past experience i have always followed my initial gut feeling and most of the time i went against it even though it was telling me - no this person isnt right for you - but this time with this girl ive met it feels right... and its been such a long time since i had a good feeling about someone so im just so incredibly happy about it... even tho it wouldnt be plain sailing cos of the complications!
I believe in lust at first sight, but not love. I think love is so much deeper than the purely visual and you can find yourself falling in love with a man/woman that you may have only shown a passing interest in at first sight and conversely, someone who looks a corker can be such a disappointment when you spend any degree of time with them.
As you've met this person a couple of times, I would still say you're in that excitable lust stage and when that becomes love, who can say? That confusion and uncertainty is part of the beauty of the whole thing.
It's a lovely feeling isn't it??
I believe im Love at first sight, I also believe its a rare occurrence, it hasn't happened to me, although I believe I love my wife, but the reason I think love at first sight is possible, is because our feelings have different depths and speeds, if you just take the emotion of 'like', how many of us decide we 'like' someone as soon as we meet them, love is just a really powerful and deep 'like', it may or may not last, but it can happen.
I am one of the most cynical dark & brooding �types� that you could ever meet.
Never bothered much with relationships, would wretch at the mere prospect of being part of a couple.
However, this happened to me�the love at first sight thing I mean!
It was the most extraordinary thing!
As clich�d as it may sound, I literally first encountered this person across a crowed room.
For some reason our eyes locked at exactly the same moment.
Painfully shy as I am, I honestly could not take my eyes off this person whom I�d never seen in my life before.
It was a completely surreal experience, and one I could only liken to an overwhelming sense of ecstatic joy and completeness, and a feeling of being at one with this utter stranger.
The strangest thing of all, was the feeling of recognition I had when I first saw him that day.
I felt like I knew him.
Within a week he had approached me (turned out he felt the same) and so began a tumultuous whirlwind of love & tragedy (ours was a complex union to say the least.)
Although together no more, to this day neither of us have experienced anything quite so intense since.
Problem being it was all a bit too intense.
Anyway I scoff no more.
Love at first sight ..? Yes absolutely !!!
Thing is you got to experience it to believe it ;o)
Never bothered much with relationships, would wretch at the mere prospect of being part of a couple.
However, this happened to me�the love at first sight thing I mean!
It was the most extraordinary thing!
As clich�d as it may sound, I literally first encountered this person across a crowed room.
For some reason our eyes locked at exactly the same moment.
Painfully shy as I am, I honestly could not take my eyes off this person whom I�d never seen in my life before.
It was a completely surreal experience, and one I could only liken to an overwhelming sense of ecstatic joy and completeness, and a feeling of being at one with this utter stranger.
The strangest thing of all, was the feeling of recognition I had when I first saw him that day.
I felt like I knew him.
Within a week he had approached me (turned out he felt the same) and so began a tumultuous whirlwind of love & tragedy (ours was a complex union to say the least.)
Although together no more, to this day neither of us have experienced anything quite so intense since.
Problem being it was all a bit too intense.
Anyway I scoff no more.
Love at first sight ..? Yes absolutely !!!
Thing is you got to experience it to believe it ;o)
The answer to the question is Absolutely YES. Joy Division gave a very accurate description of a soulmate meeting. When I met my husband it was a feeling of overwhelming love and recognition. I was married to someone else at the time and had a baby, however, after meeting my soulmate only three times I left with my son to be with him. That was 11 years ago and I can honestly say that the feelings of love and joy and excitement of the first meeting is still with us both. So never doubt it Amara x
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