What sentence will my partner get for GBH??

[Jenni_luvved]

I have recently been harrassed by a man, he kept emailing me, phoning me, and then turning up at my house, leaving me presents. He kept sayin he is in love with me etc, i barely even know him and i was getting really freaked out and upset by the whole thing. My fiance of 2 years has an agression problem, a few months ago he went to prison for 14 weeks for committing assault and battery. Yesterday, this man turned up at my house again and started pestering me, i told him to leave me alone, and i was upset. My partner saw red and went out side, he punched him a few times. I saw the mans face, i think his nose was broken and his eye was bleeding and his lip was split. I know he has pressed charges and gone to hospital as i called him to find out, but he told me that and hung up and wont speak to me.

I am so angry and worried. I couldnt sleep last night and i feel constantly on edge waiting for the police to turn up and take my partner away. I am 99% certain he will go back to prison for this and im terrified of being without him again, its the most unbearable feeling. Ive had such a bad year so far, im dreading this.

I dont know what to think, the worst part is that i have no idea how long he wil get. Ive read that people can get life imprisonment for gbh ???? Or up to 5 years. Im so destraught right now, as he is all ive got and i cant bear to be away from him again.

Can anyone tell me what a likely sentence wil be ??

Please, if u have an idea let me know, as im clueless.

Thanx, Jeni

[raysparx]

Hi jenni,

I wouldn't worry at the moment,if the police haven't picked your boyfriend up yet,he can't have pressed charges, if he does, and this bloke was really worrying you,you were only being defended,I would not think it would be a GBH charge,that is a really serious charge,maybe assault or ABH, I would wait and see if the police turn up before panicking to much, if I can get hold of my mate I will ask him what the penalties are,but at the moment,try to calm down a bit,at least this prat won't bother you anymore,take care, Ray xx

[Jenni_luvved]

Thanks for the support, he has definately gone to the police as he told me that, but im unsure as to why they havnt turned up yet too, its strange. Yeh my partner was defending me, that is true, but i cant see the judges thinking like that, u know what they can be like. And with his previous conviction, thats what really makes it worse i think

[raysparx]

Hi jenni,

Just because he told you that,doesn't mean he has,I would have expected the police to have been knocking on your door by now, you must tell the police if they do turn up that your boyfriend was protecting you, I don't think he will press charges, cos he would then be investigated for stalking you, so untill something hapens try to relax a little, I know what you mean about magistrates,most are prats,that think you are guilty just because you are there,

Take care, Ray xx

[joannie10]

I would agree with raysparx. He is just scaring you. The police would be right round if they actually had a charge to bring against someone. This person no matter how much he says he loves you is out to cause hurt and upset and that is why he is telling you he has gone to the police. I hope things will work out ok for you. You said you contacted him after your fiance hit him, best you dont do this even if it was to find out what happened. I hope you are keeping note of emails, diary of visits presents etc from this guy because if he does not stop this harrassment I think you need to be going to police or seeing a solicitor.

[jiggy-gb]

Does he have any proof it was your bf? Any witnesses?
Don't call him, he'll be revelling in your attention, he may even try blackmailing you, steer well clear of him hun x

[WendyS]

Jenni - I can understand how upset you are about this but there is another aspect to this issue and I would urge you to think about it seriously. Why on earth didn't you contact the police when this person first started harrassing you and let them deal with it? There is now a law on stalking and they could have dealt with it. If you know your boyfriend has a history of violent behaviour and aggression, it was asking for trouble letting him get involved with the situation. There is also another aspect you should thinking about. I know you say you couldn't bear to be without your fiance again if he was sent back to prison again, but what happens in the future if you stay together and he starts getting violent with you? He has already proved that he has learned nothing from his previous conviction in terms of controlling his aggression. Too many women make the mistake of thinking they can change their partner's behaviour and are then bitterly disillusioned when the inevitable happens. If he's not prepared to attend an anger management course and learn how to control this behaviour, you may well regret staying with him at some point in the future when he has once again lost his temper and attacked either you, or any children you may have.

[CrazyDaisy80]

This may not be the correct way of looking at things but if the Bloke your B/F hit has been harrassing you, why don't you tell the Police about him, then say he provoked your Boyfriend and unfortunately your B/F hit him. But this was totally provoked. Then the Police will be knocking on his Door, you'll have told the Story your way and your Bloke may still do Time but less of it.
Plus I agree with WendyS, you need to consider whether he'll hit you in the Future. My last B/F beat me up and I can tell you now it's one of the worst things that can happen and affects everything you do from then on. It took me ages to trust my current B/F and I still flinch if he moves too quick.
Address both Problems, then put it all in the Past and start enjoying yourself!!

[Jenni_luvved]

Well nuthins happened as of yet, the police havt been for him so i really have no idea whats going 2 happen, im starting 2 think he hasnt contacted the police but im not going 2 b 2 sure of that, as u never no, either way i wil keep u updated

I havnt told the police about him stalking me simply because i got sexually assaulted once a couple of years back and wen i went 2 the police, it was denyed and they didnt believe me, i went thru hell goin 2 court and everythin, and in the end i just got no justice, and its put me off goin 2 the police again, as i dont want people 2 think im just attention seeking.

Also, I have thought a lot about what if my boyrfriend ever turned on me, 2 b honest i doubt he will, my ex beat me up 2 and so i am very edgy sometimes and paranoid, but i think all i can do is trust that he wont, and if he ever did, wel i suppose it would have 2 end

xx

[Polarbear321]

EDDIE51 - thank you so much for your responses. It's kind of you to take the time. Can I ask if you work with the law / courts? (You don't need to reveal in what role). Thank you again