Speed dating advice

[SurreyGuy]

Hi all - especially those who helped me yesterday :o)

I'm going to sign up for a speed dating evening and would like some PROPER advice on what to say/ask in my three minutes - any ideas please?

T.I.A.

[raysparx]

Hi surrey,

First of all relax,and be yourself, just ask them what there interests are,where they like to go on a weekend,what they like to do,is it the pictures,eating out,etc you will be fine just make sure you take note of what people say, and look at them when they are talking, eye to eye contact very important, good luck, Ray

[SurreyGuy]

Cheers raysparx.

I always look a lady in the eye when they are talking - I think it shows interest.

Those are the sorts of questions I would ahve asked, but would they not be regarded as "run-of-the-mill"? Would a woman not want me to ask something different?

[raysparx]

Hi surrey,

I would think initially you just want to get a feel for the person,the first one you chat to might ask you something,that will make you think good question I will ask that to the next one, don't forget everybody there is there for the same reason,don't put yourself under pressure,the ladies will be nervous as well so just try to make them feel comfortable with you, guarenteed there will be acouple of right flash blokes there,let them get on with it be the gent you are,you are fine I am sure it will work for you, Ray

[SurreyGuy]

Cheers m8

[PinkFizz]

God I must be half asleep - I thought this said SHEEP dating!!

[SurreyGuy]

Wanna confess something, PinkFizz? :o)

[Supernick]

This might sound awful, but depending on how many girls there are, you might be able to experiment with slightly different questions with the 'mingers', knowing that you're not too bothered about the response.

I want to go now. This is clearly the way forward.

[PinkFizz]

lol no !! But it would be interesting tho - little tables with sheep sitting at them.............ahem,think I didnt get much sleep last night!

[SurreyGuy]

Supernick - that's cruel. They're human beings with feelings.

PinkFizz...................try counting sheep! :o)

[China Doll]

Hi Surrey,

A friend of mine when speed dating recently but there was a few of them going so they treated it as a night out to keep the pressure off themselves and so they could relax.I think there's definate merit in the idea, just make sure you have fun and enjoy it!

(Oh and no, just saw your other thread. I don't use that tescos but you're not a million miles away from me! Get yourself in to town on a saturday night, go to haha's or something, threre's always wall to wall of lovely girls in there)

xx

[SurreyGuy]

China Doll - so where do YOU shop?

As for "get yourself into Ha Has, there's wall-to-wall lovley girls in there", you obviously didn't read my proiginal question from yesterday which included "I'm shy"! :o)

I have never been any good in bars, nightclubs as the women seem un-approachable unless you're a waste of space, lairy, drunk or a combination of all three! I don't ever envisage that changing :o(

[Octavius]

I would probably spend the 3 minutes giving little information, apart from the basics and giving the impression that I am a sincere genuine man whose personality goes deeper than small talk, and spend it mostly listening to what they have to say. I can�t really stand people who blurt out there whole life story in 3 minutes flat without a pause for breath (we have enough of that on here), so I don�t do it myself. Listen carefully, remember their name, nod in the right places and try to relate/sympathise to what they say. If it all goes to plan they will hopefully decide that you are deep and slightly mysterious and they will want to get to know more about you, alone. My nickname in my youth was, darkhorse.

Most women love the sound of their own voice, so you probably won't have to say much.

[China Doll]

Lol.... I shop in tesco's too... just not the one in camberley!

Apologies, I think I did miss the shy part of your question.

Ok, I'll give you that haha's isn't great but there's a pub called the Keystones (not sure that's spelt right) which does nice food and usually has a bit of live music on saturdays, it's nice there and there's a good age mix and it's far more relaxed than a club. (Might depend how old you are I guess). Why not go there with some mates? It could just be a good fun evening.

I honestly think you should relax and go with the flow tho and listen to Raysparx, he's right.

And if you're really stuck for questions ideas you could always fall back on the pub questions that people ask to keep the conversation going... you know, which 5 people would you have for dinner from anywhere in history? That sort of thing...

And make them laugh.... that's half the battle babe I think.

[SurreyGuy]

China Doll - so you're not gonna tell me which is your local Tesco? :o(

[China Doll]

Lol... No hun, not on here! I don't know who's out there.

I can however see the university from the tescos I shop in.

[SurreyGuy]

Guildford?

Hmmmmmmm, so if you are gonna smile at me (as you said yesterday) how will I know it's YOU and how will YOU know it's ME! :o)

[China Doll]

Sigh.... that bit where I said I wasn't going to say exactly where I was love... honestly ;0P

You'll just have to smile at and then approach a lot of girls won't you... ask if any of them know a shy surrey guy!

[SurreyGuy]

Oh for goodness sake! :o)

[China Doll]

Lol.... consider it therapy!

[SurreyGuy]

well if you're really single and genuinely interested (well it's worth a try!) then drop me a mail........................ [email protected] :o)