Should I be worried?

[BeingFrank]

I've met a girl through an online dating site and we've been seeing each other for about 3 or 4 months now. She is perfect in every way, She's so nice to me, My friends all love her, and I've really fallen for her but I think she is cheating on me and don't know what to do.

The reason for this is that I found out she is still logging in to the dating website and I know this sounds awful, but I seen texts on her phone from another guy. I seen the first one by mistake and then sneakily looked at others, one said that he wanted her, another said it was killing him that she was with someone else. I looked at one she had sent to him that just simply said "be mine".

Do you think I am worrying over nothing and what do you all think I should do?

[sophie_1003]

confront her about it, thats the only way you're really going to find out whats going on, just ask her without mentioning seeing her phone first then if you don't get a decent enough answer bring it up and if she changes her story somethings going on!

[missjef]

i agree with what sophie said above, you need to bring it up with her. i dont think you are worrying over nothing it does seem like something is going on, and if it does turn out she's cheating on her then you should find someone else - someone who cheats on you isnt worth being with.

let us know what happens. *good luck*

em x

[sophie_1003]

Whether she's cheating you or not she's betrayed your trust and you have to think whether you'll be able to trust her again. Hopefully she hasn't cheated and it's something you'll be able to work through!

[Sherry1]

I know this is sneeky but can you log onto the dating site as someone else and start chatting to her?
See how she responds to you
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[Suzyboo]

Don't be sneaky - you have already gone behind her back to read her texts. The only way forward if you are going to build a worthwhile relationship with her is to talk to her about it. It may just be that she doesn't know how committed you feel and is just 'keeping her options open' and after all the text implied the other guy knew she was with you. There are many possible explanations -some good, some bad but the only way to discover her feelings, intentions and honesty is to talk to her about it.

[Sherry1]

Treat like with like Suzyboo
If she is telling lies and cheating what on earth makes you think she is going to be honest if he confronts her???
Get your facts first hand then confront her. She can't lie if you catch her red handed.

[RATTER15]

Go on be sneaky, catch her red handed that way and a lot more fun!!

[Suzyboo]

You can't expect her to trust him if he behaves sneakily to try to catch her out then it turns out there's an innocent explanation for it all.If he wants a relationship built on trust then he can't sink to the level of deceit just because he suspects her. She should at least have the opportunity to come clean first. Then if she pretends she is no longer on the site or in contact with anyone, then he would have more reason to gather 'proof'

[BeingFrank]

Thanks for all your answers, I'm going to have to talk to her about it but its not the easiest thing to bring up! Also, I'm gutted that I seen those messages, I suppose it serves me right as I shouldnt have looked but I was suspicious and I have been proved (Sort of) right.

[Sherry1]

Good luck BeingFrank. It isn't easy but if you don't sort it out there really isn't anywhere to go
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