Does anyone agree with me?

[bobbikay]

I am sooooo sick of slu+s and i was just wondering if anyone agrees with me. i can't stand it when people think they have to sleep around to be liked. it's so disgusting when they walk around thinking they're hot sh*t. it makes me feel like vomiting. and then they think all the guys like them but really, they just want them for sex. i consider myself to be somewhat attractive (i'm not trying to be cocky) but i know people who are butt ugly that get more guys than me, so they think they're better than me. Well, if you ask me, a girl who respects themselves is a lot more attractive than one who can't keep her legs shut for 5 minutes, no matter how pretty they are and how many guys like them. Does anyone agree?

[SC00BY]

Maybe they have a nice personality?

[bobbikay]

but the guys who are interested in them don't care, they just want sex.

[bobbikay]

and i'm not saying they don't have good personalites, i'm just saying i'm sick of slu+s

[unruliejulie]

I think a lot of it is low self esteem bobbikay. That and a need to feel wanted but in the completely wrong way. Most blokes dont mind sha$$ing a girl as soon as they meet, but generally they then dont want anymore than that,because they think, if they'll do that with them, then they'll do it with everyone and so that equals slapper! Shame there are no rules for blokes like this though!

[noxlumos]

I think you are probably quite young, as you seem to have very rigid ideas in your head about what consititutes a slu+.
tyhere is nothing wrong with men or women engaging in recreational sex, it doesn't make them a bad person and it doesn't make you right and them wrong, it';s just a different lifestyle choice that all. There are some charming slu+s, and some so called respectable girls I'd struggle to spend half an hour in the com[pany of becaus they are so awful to be around, so chill out, no-one is any better or any worse than you are and someone else's sexual habits really shouldn't bother you.

[Goodsoulette]

but are they attracting the kind of guys you want? Probably not. Works both ways.

[whitbybabe]

You are so right.Slu#s are ten a penny wherever you live but the thing is,shallow men will always take what they can get.A girl who makes a stand and sticks to her priciples will always be proud of herself.Not ALL men are ba*****ds though.

[bobbikay]

well, noxlumos, by the way you're talking, i can tell u are probably a slu+ yourself, (i'm not trying to be rude). but there is something wrong with recreational sex. a person should not engage in sex unless they love the person. how can u let somebody inside u when u don't even know them. and just because ur older than me, it doesn't make u smarter. i'm not saying i'm better than anyone, i just have certain morals and standards that i stand by, that's all. and the reason i'm so pi$$ed off about it is because most of my friends are slu+s, and it hurts me to see them giving their body away so easily. so u can let all the c0ck$ u want inside u, but don't come crying to me when u get a disease!

[bobbikay]

oh, that is if ur a girl. if ur a guy, then maybe reverse some of the words i said around :D

[blue eyes ;)]

i agree you do sound very young,dont worry about what everyone else is doing......if you choose (as you say) to reapect yourself then do so.

[blue eyes ;)]

*respect* !! lol

[Goodsoulette]

Im not entirely sure, but I think Nox is ahappily married man, Im sure I have seen him posting about how wonderful he thinks his wife is on several occasions. If 2 people agree recreational sex is ok, then thats their problem not yours.
However when you start insulting fellow Abers (cause yes, that did sound really rude) you are making your problems other peoples problems. Live and let live.
If you stick to your morals, then the right guy wikll come along for you.

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, it seems you have just been bagged off for another girl bobbikay. Sorry to hear that. Like a lot of the others say, you sound very young. Dont get to that 'bitter' stage at your age. I take it the reason for him choosing the other girl over you was that she looked more 'revealing' than yourself. Just because girls offer themselves to lads, it doesnt mean they are bad. Its every guys dream to have sex and have no commitment there. Maybe your scaring the guys off because your too , erm, b1tchy. Or maybe your just not giving the guys what they really want...

[dawg_kane]

sex is fun between two consenting adults,

i dont believe you have to be in a relationship or married to enjoy it....so long as its safe of course!

[cazzrob]

i agree wif dawg-kane, sleeping with someone the 1st time u meet em isn't slu++y, as long as the 2 people are consenting, careful and single, it doesnt make em bad people. as long as no one gets hurt, lets keep DUREX in business. :)

[bobbikay]

i'm sorry... i guess i overreacted.(and by the way, im 17, quite young, yes) i'm sorry if i insulted anyone. i was just extremely grouchy and pi$$ed off at the moment. i still don't think it's okay to have sex without being in love. and i didn't mean to be b1tchy. and i guess i shouldn't talk either, i'm not innocent. and guys don't usually choose other girls over me because they're revealing... i can dress pretty revealing at times myself. and i was also pi$$ed off because most guys consider me to be really hot (that part doesn't pi$$ me off lol :p) but usually all they want is meaningless sex. that pi$$es me off. i've made that mistake b4 and i hate to see other girls make that mistake over and over again. i know i'm no better than anyone else. i'm not a b1tch, HONEST! i'm in a better mood now, so i just wanna apologize if i offended anyone! :D

[Pippa68]

It's wrong to have sex without being in love? trust me, dear you might be waiting a long time for that to happen!

I didn't fall in love until I was 22 and I certainly wasn't going to wait until it happened before I had sex. Nox is right ~ sex & love can be separated quite easily and it isn't neccessarily a bad thing.

As for the so called *****..personally I would never call one of my friends a **** no matter what her sexual habits are but there you go. It's their life, not yours. Open your mind a little, eh?

[bobbikay]

thanks, but i don't agree. i did it with a guy that was really hot, but i didn't know him. and then, as soon as i wouldn't do it again, he went and told everyone i was an ugly wh0re. and the worst part was, i did this while i was going out with someone, a really decent guy, and our relationship ended because of it. and CAZZROB, if sleeping with someone the first time u meet them isnt slu+ty, then what is? and afterwards, i felt really cheap. after all, and i know my friends lives are their own, but i care about them, and i don't mean to insult them, but i can't think of how else to name their behavior. and i don't think there is a need for my friends, especially the ones that are like 15, to be having sex already. i find it sick when young teenagers already have to be put on birth control. and i also love my mom very much, and i know how disappointed she would be if i slept around. and again, how can u let someone inside u when u don't know them? virginity is like a balloon, once it pops, u can't get it back.