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Post childbirth question.
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Well, my g/f and I have been together for nearly 6 years. We have a 2 year old child together, and I take care of him.
I am manic depressant, and take my medications daily.
My question is this:
Since the birth of our son, she has had nearly no sexual drive. In the past 2 and a half years, I would say we have had sex about 10 times. And, she usually acts as though she were angry with me for initiating it.
Upon research, I see that Post Partum Depression rarely lasts more than 6 months. Her gynecologist has performed tests and given her a clean bill of health. We have gone to counselling, and she seems to be getting angrier.
So, what can we do to return our relationship to a comparable image of it's former self?
I am manic depressant, and take my medications daily.
My question is this:
Since the birth of our son, she has had nearly no sexual drive. In the past 2 and a half years, I would say we have had sex about 10 times. And, she usually acts as though she were angry with me for initiating it.
Upon research, I see that Post Partum Depression rarely lasts more than 6 months. Her gynecologist has performed tests and given her a clean bill of health. We have gone to counselling, and she seems to be getting angrier.
So, what can we do to return our relationship to a comparable image of it's former self?
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Actually post natal/ post partum depression can last for years, and in some cases can even be delayed for years.
I would say possibly that counselling sometimes makes some people in your scenario feel worse. Does your wife feel angry and judged about it? If so then I'd personally advise you to try and get childcare for the day and take the whole day with your partner to show her exactly how much you love her (in a non sexual way) and try to get her to open up one to one with you and tell you exactly how she feels. You must ask her for complete honesty and expect things you may not wish to hear without being in any way judgemental. She clearly needs your support and love, she's just having a very hard time at the moment allowing herself that luxury.Communication is the only way forward, so you have to at some point talk honestly together.
I would say possibly that counselling sometimes makes some people in your scenario feel worse. Does your wife feel angry and judged about it? If so then I'd personally advise you to try and get childcare for the day and take the whole day with your partner to show her exactly how much you love her (in a non sexual way) and try to get her to open up one to one with you and tell you exactly how she feels. You must ask her for complete honesty and expect things you may not wish to hear without being in any way judgemental. She clearly needs your support and love, she's just having a very hard time at the moment allowing herself that luxury.Communication is the only way forward, so you have to at some point talk honestly together.
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