Counselling won't necessarily make you change how feel about your ex, but will more likely help you to specifically identify, and come to terms with your feelings.....
Why your friends encouraged you to talk to other women i don't know, and neither do i understand why you went along with it just to make them happy- it should be what YOU want that counts, NOT what someone else expects of you. don't beat yourself up about it tho'
Since it's only been a few days, you are bound to feel a little down about the situation, you are human after all. But that is the good thing about humans; we have the ability to look to the future and altho, for now, time stands still, you won't always feel like this, unless you choose to.....
Try to do something you really enjoy to take your mind off it all for a while, even if just temporarily.....what did you do before you were together? What have you always wanted to do?
In answer to the actual question....only you will know if it is love or not, but that may not change anything. Keep reminding yourself that you are a valuable person and nothing can change that except you, again, if you choose to....good luck m8