Best Approach..

[Xenon101]

I know there are potentially a million answers here. If u see a member of the opposite sex in a bar and u find them attractive then what is THE best way to approach them. ? I know all the go straight up and chat, walk past and make eye contact, get drunk and make a play etc. etc. When i was younger I just used to go straight in and act an idiot to get attention. Now I'm older (33) and supposedly more mature I don't find it that easy. Any advice or success stories????

[smiley07]

hiya if u do find someone attractive then i think you should walk up to and just say hiya etc just start a normal chat be normal dont try to make a big effort or be too over confident that way you will look genuine to others and i think its a better way of approaching someone..........yr 33 now dont get drunk and approach.just be normal..............if the person not intersted you will know youll end up having a brief chat and just seeya........but if he or she interested then good 4 you
all za best

[Xenon101]

Ta Smiley. I'll be sure to pop over and say hiya if I ever see u in a bar!! ;o)

[smiley07]

awwwwww...........all the best!!!!!!!!1

[Tha-Flash]

You know, there are like literally 1000s of guys who are dedicated to PICK UP, its a lifestyle -- self improvement.

Most guys try to be like James Bond, yeah.. I'll be smooth and confident. That's alright but the problem is... NEARLY EVERY GUY IS DOING THIS.

The best way to hook (make them want you to stay) is BE DIFFERENT. If you approach a HB10 and tell her she's beautiful she will CATEGORISE you and assume you're a chump after only one thing.

You wanna see something CRAZY?
This guy approaches and some of the stuff he says YOU WOULDN'T BELIEVE WOULD EVER WORK.

Watch the guy in the green shirt.

Keys to the VIP part 1 - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qSoq3XNJLfg

Keys to the VIP part 2 - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3LtGQfK3Ujs

Keys to the VIP part 3 - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ledew084HR8

Also - DON'T BE SO OUTCOME DEPENDANT WHEN YOU APPROACH BECAUSE THERE ARE 100s OF WOMEN TO CHOOSE FROM!

A lot of guys wont wanna read/hear/take advice because they have this EGO where they imagine themselves as GOOD with women and if they take this advice then it means that they're NOT good with women and they're not this PIMP they imagine themselves to be.

If you ARE interested in this type of thing -or any other guy-, just let me know and I will give you the site of the community (its huge with tons of ideas/advice).


Anyway, you have all the resources you need. JUST GO OUT AND DO IT.

GOOD LUCK

[Trinny]

did you cut and paste that from self help pick up women site then Tha-Flash?

[Priness]

I find i have the most success with eye contact.

I start by getting there gaze and looking away. Leave it for 5mintues, then do the same. Then really hold there gaze, 10seconds and look away. Then start half smiling at them and flicking my hair. Hopefully they will then come over or im drunk enough to go over to them and then I just try and be myself.

Its really hard though isn't it, all this dating.

I have to be feeling sexy and confident to do my eye moves as well

[smiley07]

i dont mean to be rude .honest.but why do some people have to be drunk to chat someone up..........you wont remeber half stuff you spoke about.....its not a real genuine chat...........well i think it isnt...........if you are easygoing not too highly opinioned and can get on with people easy you just need your smile and be friendly to get on with guys and girls...........

[lounurse]

As a 30 something year old woman don't listen to the blokes they have no idea. The best idea is just find a way to get close enough by moving your mates standing close and accidently bump into them apologise and start a bit of a conversation. Bit hard in a quiet pub. The best way then is just to sit down close and get your mates roped in and start a bit of banter going between everyone bit of a laugh. Then just sideline off your conversation with the gir you are interested in. We are all getting older and hate all the crap chat up lines. We much prefer a bloke who will make us smile.

[Tha-Flash]

Haha Trinny, I only write what the voice in my head tells me. But there's a reason why that voice tells me what it does :)

[StudentGal]

I think the film hitch gives out some great advice :D