Hi Oceanauk - Sounds good so far to me, I think maybe your new man is perhaps feeling a bit overwhlemed to 'perform' and this can have a negative effect on his bits... relax a bit on the sex front, try not to be too demanding and perhaps next time you are together concentrate on letting him pleasure you and take the pressure off penetration....take your time and concentrate on him more too make him feel wanted and important....things I am sure will get back on track. Good luck.