get rid, get him out of your life, he's one of those men that didnt want to go out with you even though you are really kind of an item. But he's waiting for someone better to come along, and then he can say well I'm sorry we wernt going out. This still makes him a player whether he sees other girls or not. Now he�s feeling guilty that he�s stopped you moving on, so this is why he cant be mates either because he knows temptation is there. It�s the best thing. I�m saying all this because the last 2 years I was mug enough to fall for it, that he wouldn�t go out with me because he didn�t want to settle, he wanted to do his own thing but if I did he got angry. The whole time another bloke wanted me and I still went for the other coz thought he might change his mind one day. Every other week we�d say cant do this anymore, then the next week we�d be messing about again. Finally on valentines he was a complete arse and I said that was it, we said our goodbyes the other week and I gave the other bloke a chance, Saw ex over weekend and he tried it on again and I said no sorry I�ve got someone else waiting at home for me. That�s when he starting calling me sl@g, easy etc. From the man that didn�t want me and he expected me to pine for him the rest of my life. Anyway sorry I�ve ran on but you really need to get rid and move on before you get really hurt. You may say he�s not a player but he�s still trying to control you.