arrrgh!!!

[Kaylz1988]

Ok so I posted something on here YESTERDAY! Today I just need to get something off my chest. My boyfriend is a jerk! We spend saturday nights togther without fail. Friday nights we spend with mates. This saturday hes going round a mates to watch a big fight! He says he'll pick me up after!! But whats the point of going there at 12in the morning? Last Saturday was the same thing. Didnt get to spend the evening with him. Was there from about 10.30! Then as soon as we got home he went to sleep. I just want to hear other peoples points of view. This is going to be the 2nd Saturday that I dont get to spend with him now. I feel abit neglected to be honest with you. I've told him how i feel abit, havent told him i feel neglected. And he says he wont go but then I dont want him not to go and have the ump with me. You know be the big bad controlling GF! Am I being unreasonable?

[Kaylz1988]

Do you think I should go then on Saturday to the park ?

[Kaylz1988]

Do you think I should go then on Saturday to the park? xx

[4getmenot]

that sounds good to me :-)

[4getmenot]

yes he's invited you, go if you want to, but do it coz you want to not because you cant spend a minute apart from him.

[Kaylz1988]

Lol yeh. I dont want to come across as a clingy person. Im not! I just feel I wanted to see him properly this weekend as last weekend was a flop to. So yeh I do want to go, jus dont wanna feel like im steppin on his toes xxx

[4getmenot]

if he has asked you to go then go, if it was a half hearted well come if you want then I wouldnt

[Kaylz1988]

Well he said i might go park sat u can come if you want to. It didnt sound half hearted! Maybe I should ask him if he'd rather jus go with the lads

[4getmenot]

No just go, dont drag it out with all the 'do you really want me to go, you dont do you..... it will just annoy him

[Kaylz1988]

True lol. Thanks sooooooo much xxxxx

[joko]

he can only watch the game - when he game is on - he cannot alter it to suit you! so you must be flexible.

a habit? if i ate corned beef twice, would you say i had a habit of eating corned beef? twice is not a habit.

if you put bulldog clips on a birds wings it will not leave you, it will stay, it has no choice... but the second they fall off, even for minute, the bird will fly away - and it absolutely won't be back.
if you try to clamp onto him, he will leave as soon as he can.

you are teenagers, you do not own him, and to be honest the likelihood of him being ''the one'' is slim, so don't ruin it by making him resent you

[emx384]

Hi ya!

Where are your mates on Saturday night? Arrange a night out with them and than you in future ask him to tell you when he is going out so you can arrange your own night out. At the end of the day a routine of staying in all the time on certain days can get a bit boring for anyone - do your own thing and you wont be sitting at homne worrying about it all. when you dont have a 'routine' you will end up spending better quality time together!

Saturday night is a popular night for anyone to go out - so you cant blame him for not wanting to make it a 'regular night in'. Instead of a set night each week every week- choose one particular night week by week - even if you have been working. He is more likely to say to his mates he cant go out if its a bit more random and unplanned and hes guaranteed a good evening!!

Good luck girl xx

[4getmenot]

so how was this weekend, did you go to the park??

[Kaylz1988]

No I never went. I never stayed at his either. I went out instead with my mates. We had a little mis hap in the morning he had said to me that he was only coming to get me as he fort he had to. So I assumed he wasnt going to come for me and told him not to worry. So I decided to go out and he got the ump bcoz he wanted to see me after. But I had gone out. So it wasnt possible. Saw him Sunday instead. xx

[4getmenot]

well good for you!! You've shown that Its not always on his terms and that you can do your own stuff, and the fact that annoyed him may make him realise it cant be one rule for him and another for you. But I hope you had a good time with your mates and realised you don�t need to spend every day with the boyf. :-)

[Kaylz1988]

Yeah I think it was good actually. I think we needed the space. We'll jus see if he decides what hes doing this saturday lol xx

[meaty]

Its girls who are the jerks

[4getmenot]

I think both sexes can be. Dont know what problems you have had with girls meaty but fair enough.

[Kaylz1988]

Well I dont think that comment was really needed. I never said men were jerks I said my BF was! Anyways like 4getmenot said I think both sexes can be. I've realised I've over reacted abit last week. But it is just upsetting when your other half says hes avoiding spending time with you. But we sorted things out. Were getting on well. Im going to start doing more things with my friends at weekends to. xx