the first date

[missylu]

i need some help.. i really like this certain guy and he has asked me out on many occasions but i keep putting it off.. i hate to, but i get soo nervous and pull out.. i wanna get rid of this feeling but i have always been like this and thats why i never have relationships... please giv me some advice .. i really do like him.. x

[nannon]

i get like this - i'm so nrvous that it makes me sick!
But i can honestly say it is not as awkward as you think!!!! I promise you those nerves will soon go!
Don't forget he is probably as nervous as you are!!! And remember he WANTS to be there with you and by the sounds of it you wnat to be ther with him!!!!

[4getmenot]

make sure you go somewhere where you wont have any awkward silences, something like going bowling is great fun

[China Doll]

Treat a first date as just a social occasion with a mate.

Possibly a very attractive mate but a mate nonetheless.

That's really all you are on a first date anyway.

Just go with the flow.

Mind you.... I don't date.

Ignore everything I said!

[Sasha13]

Bowling is really good for a first date - no awkward silences as if one occurs then you just go and bowl! At the end of the day you're not going to get anywhere if you keep pulling out - he will assume you're not interested and will back off.

Bite the bullet and go - what's the worst that can happen? A couple of hours together where the conversation is strained and a bit awkward. So what??

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, i agree with sasha there. I was gonna say bowling as your not put into an awkward position of silence and wondering what to say.
I know what you mean missylu as i have the same problem. I am useless around women at first and never make the first move, but once i get to know them i am fine.
Another thing i would do is give him your mobile number and text each other for a bit first. Its not much but it eases the tension slightly for when you actually go out on your date...

[missylu]

his already got my number, weve been textin 4 a while now, and he already puts a smile on my face, he says the right things too. its just so nerve racking.. x

[DJerba]

Have a glass of wine, deep breaths and chill out. your emotions are controlled by your breathing so focus on that before you meet up with him.

Just bite the bullet and hey he wants to go out with you come on girly do us proud!

[China Doll]

Have you two ever physically met before?

[MrBen5]

Make sure you use protection to.
Dont rely on him to bring any along...

[4getmenot]

mr ben its their first date !!

[behappy87]

Just try and chill out...maybe have a drink or two beforehand (but don't turn up ******!) You're in the best situation really, he asked you out, he obviously likes you, and you like him! I always tell myself before dates that HE was the one who built up the courage to ask me...all I have to do is turn up! Try not to think about awkward situations beforehand, chances are you'll have loads of things to talk about...the conversation will just flow! Good luck.

[sleepy1]

mr ben i thought you was a gentleman !! Make sure you use protection to.
Dont rely on him to bring any along...

[4getmenot]

well you accepted the date yet??

[missylu]

yer its tonight.. nervous already..x o and chinadoll i have met him loads of times but not been just us 2 x

[MrBen5]

Good luck missylu :)
Let me know how it went tomorrow.
Remember not to sleep with him on your first date.
I was only joking earlier about him bringing them :)
If you want respect off this guy you need to show some yourself...

[taliesin238]

Missylu i keep on doing the same thing!! I am really good friends with an absolute gorgeous guy and he is just sooo nice but i keep putting off meeting up with him. Ive noticed that i do this when im on a bad day when i feel i dont look good enough. He is well into his designer clothes and is always imaculate and i feel so plain and scruffy around him!! We have been physical in the past but are now just friends and i would really love to keep in touch with him!! Isnt it just awful missylu, i know EXACTLY how your feeling!! Whats wrong with us ??

[4getmenot]

well howd it go??? Come on tell us...

[missylu]

it was quality.. lvd every min of it... gonna do it again.. cant wait.. seeing him tomorrow.. xx

[4getmenot]

oh thats so good, where did you go? what did you do? Was there awkward silence? are you both expecting more? Can I ask any more questions?