help!!

[ladypink06]

if your boyfriend got a txt from a girl he knows you dont like ad it said 'luv (name) x' would't you be ****** off?.. especially when he says he may txt her from time to time.... i got really p****d off at this and we ended up having a row about it. am i over reacting or not?... thanks x

[river]

No dont get pis*ed over that! 'Luv' that means nothing and even if she is sending him things who cares? Ladypink no one wants a jealous gf so chill be cool with it and just remember hes with you not the 'luv' bird. :o )

[ladypink06]

she never put 'luv x' when we used to be mates. maybe she jst trying to get at me!!

jst that we had probs before but with his ex txting him n he used to txt bk at first. then stopped as he realised it wasnt fair on me. but now he doesnt care that its hurting me and that he wants to keep txting her now and then. he dosent care how im feeling... :-(

[Richie1976]

Yes, you're over reacting and definitely not very lady like!

[LittleMissxx]

i wouldnt have it.

[lucylocket69]

I wouldn't be happybunny atttttt all i tell ya! Just explain how much it's hurting you, and would it be poss to chill it down with his ex. His answer will depend on what type of bf he really is!

[ladypink06]

the txt with his ex stopped ages ago. its an old friend that he knows i hate. i've tried telling him how i feel about it last nite and this morning but he says he going to speak to her when ever he likes... and thinks all im doing is thinking about myself. he's never been bothered abou ttxtin her until she txt him yesterday!

[wisewomen]

Do you know what she wants? Is he happy to show you the texts or is it Strictly Private?

I wouldnt be happy, especially that he appears now to be doing it just because he knows you dont like it.

[ladypink06]

he's showed me the messages and said he would show me or tell me if he does txt her. but he could still delete ones he doesnt want me to see. i think its mainly coz he has hid things like this from me in the past and thas why im getting so annoyed about it!

[VillageVicar]

I�d guess she�s enjoying the fact that she�s winding you up. However, I think it�s rather disrespectful that your BF is so blas� over the fact that it hurts you. The dynamics of your relationship doesn�t appear to be too healthy at present. Perhaps those are issues you and he might wish to address.

I wish you every success
Fr Bill

[Roughquest]

Dont take it to heart, dont read too much into things, its just an 'X' - simple - its just another letter...... - because YOU read it as a 'kiss' is the issue - I do this to all my friends male and female and it means nothing to me other than a term of endearment - akin to an 'ok'....also its force of habit that I always put a kiss after all my texts friends. Admittedly it did used to pee my b/f off and he went 'off on one' BUT he admitted to reacting OTT and put it in perspective. He just sees it as what a 'girly' does.

[sophie_1003]

love spelt like luv and just one kiss wouldnt bother me but love spelt properly and more than three kisses would really get to me!

[HelenMac1]

I think I would be a little annoyed. My EX boyfriend was also inconsiderate when it came to my feelings, how would your boyfriend like it if the situation was reversed. Tell him how you feel, if you dont like the answer your better off without him. It sounds to me like you also have a problem when it comes to trust.

[sarnieken]

Tricky one this.

texting and email language can cause so many hiccups and missed intentions, especially if there have been issues before.

If you have told him that you don't like the idea of him texting this person and he doesn't realise it is hurting you then maybe you need to reconsider your relationship with him.
However, if this is the only thing that is causing you hassle in the relationship and he isn't having anything untoward with this girl then maybe it is worth putting up with.

K

[sarnieken]

Oh, if you don't mind me asking,

how old are you?
K

[kate1976]

I always end my text or emails to my friends and family with love you xxx male or female and I know a few people get slightly ticked off about it but it's not my problem they get jealous over a few words, it's not as if she sent a text declaring her undying love for him, just leave it, it's not worth getting wound up about!

If she is doing it to wind you up then be the bigger person and don't let her know she's got to you!

[ladypink06]

thanks for all your replies. he knows exactley how i feel about it all but i think im just going to put it to the back of my head and forget about it. i know he'll tell me if anything is said as he's assured me he will. if i keep dwelling on it, it will only cause more problems and thas the last thing we want as everything else is great between us. oh, and im 20 sarnieken!

[claireyfairy]

She's an old friend of his or yours? If she's an old friend of his then ur being out of line really hun, he's entitled to talk to his mates male or female and the "luv..x" thing is just a friendly thing in most cases.

If she's an old friend of urs and not his but has just got his number then he's being an arse!

xx

[blu3wave]

Hmmm... well I wouldnt keep secrets from my bf and vice versa so clearly, the situation like yours would never happen to me as I wouldnt keep such a bf ;)

[JonnyBoy12]

Guy input here. I am a single (but looking) guy who always signs my texts and messages Luv. It does not mean that I am flirting with anyone, especially not if they are male. I just seem to like everyone. If I were going to commit suicide, hopefully not, then I would say in my note. "I love everybody, noone is to blame for this". That would make everyone feel less guilty, I hope.