step siblings getting together

[Thunderchild]

Now this is just for curiosity as I certainly have no problem dating my stepsister to be but she has some issues about it and hardly wants to admit to it while admiting she really likes me alot. things are more bared since our respective parents are now expecting a child.
so I put it to the answerbank what are your opinions on a step brother and sister that met at 23 and 20 getting together ? just to see what the public have to say because I know ther nothing wrong with it although some may what odds am I against ?

[andy-hughes]

You will encounter some predjudice - people are like that - but if you two are OK, and your families are OK, then there is nothing wrong in what you are doing.

The only problem is, if you share a house, and things don't work out, it will make a split very awkward for everyone, so do think carefully before you proceed.

[Thunderchild]

well we kind of have an on off thing she I don't know why she has suddenly decided it is not right especially with a new arrival on the way. we will always be great friends and as far as I know our families are ok with it. if it weren't to work out there would be no hard feelings just not a match we would still be very good friends. we don't live with our families anyway so there would not be such an awkwadness, considering I am top on her list of people to live with after she finishes uni and her knowing how I feel about her I don't know what to think. I think deep down she wants me but for some reason will not let it happen

[Thunderchild]

we'll see she seems to like my company even intimately but dosen't want to say ok we are a couple, we are lets say on a friends with benefits point

[Thunderchild]

well family are aware of it its not like we hide or anything
thats what I don't get we have no oposition and no nee to hide and she started out by being the first to express feelings beyond friendship and steps to be

[Thunderchild]

thank ye sir

[tiny e.a]

I think whether or not there's anything 'wrong' with it depends on the circumstances. Were you bought up together as children? If you were then I would find it a bit strange, but that's just me, there's nothing illegal about it. If however you were both grown up when you met and became step siblings then no, I wouldn't find that particularly strange, like you say, it's not as if you live together as family or anything.

However, if she is finding it strange you have to respect that. I can understand why a new child on the way might make her reconsider a relationship with you. Though nothing would really change in the dynamics of your own relationship you would both share a blood relative in the child. Your girlfriend may be concerned with the child growing up and wondering why it's brother and sister are in a relationship. If you don't have a problem with it then good for you, but as much as you are alllowed not to have a problem with it, she is allowed to have a problem with it.

It's a very tricky situation, I hope you manage to resolve it either way.

[Thunderchild]

no we met for the first time as adults she 20 and me 23 and really got on well. I can understand it might seem strange that a child will grow up wondering how come brother and sister are together but its not hard to explain and nowadays all sorts of things happen with marriage at least our parents waited until we were old enough to split up (well my dad managed to hold things together anyhow) whats more strange for a child is to grow up with how come I have a brother and dadys not his father and vice versa our situation is much better than that we wouldn't spend all our time around him/her anyhow its not like he she would see us get into bed together every night theres not even room for the whole family in either of our parent houses

[Thunderchild]

but like you said I have to respect her feelings and do I'm not pushing it just giving her the space she wants and being there when she wants me

[Solarjunkie]

It's oviously not unknown - I have heard of double weddings, where mum & daughter married father & son! They were step siblings, of course.
There's no blood link, so no problem.
Best of luck.

[Skreecheeboy]

Bit weird mate. I blame the parents. Had things transpired differently in my life you never know what could have happened with me and my step sister but our parents took leave of themselves before we had met and our lives took very different directions from what could have been. I could never look at her in that way now but had we met in different circumstances, ie not being related, it could have been different as we are both intelligent, attractive and there's a year between us so starting life in the same small town could have meant that we'd have met at high school and what if what if what if.....
Does't bear thinking about now though as she's like my sister! Cant' you find somebody that you're not related to? Are you from the states by any chance?

[homerbart]

Go for it - absolutely nothing illegal here. Even if you knew each other years ago and then met up - nothing wrong.
I have a friend who is married to her full cousin - did not meet him until later. The relationship did meet with prejudice but they have 5 wondeful and might I add genius ie. clever of children - where people have said marrying too close leads to "funny" children. I know another couple from many years ago and they married too and they had 7 wonderful boys. GO FOR IT

[Thunderchild]

ckreechyboy I'm not sure of your position but frankly it could have been a close miss for us otherwise. ok so we met as adults and liked each other (no she didn't seem to have a problem then) but as it happens our families once lived very close together my dad said to his gf I probably saw your mother alot about the neighbourhood.

theres only 2 year 11 months between us so had our parents not divorced and moved away from the area we could well have met we were born in the same hospital too, I mean parents apart we could have just met we never met until adults so hec we have a right. don't know why she feels it is a problem and won't even admit it. well she has a new bf but I don't think they are moving very fast like shes spending the whole weekend alone sounds very happy that I rang her up for company... it may work out yet

[tazz]

at end of day its your life so u gotta do whats right 4 u. but if shes gotta bf y u waiting?

[Thunderchild]

well they argued laxdt week as he didn't want to spend 4 � to get a train and go see her, now I'm going down next weekend frankly I didn't think it would last long this was they guy that the othernight was buying drinks for her and her friend in a night club we'll see what happens anyhow I have no one else to pursue rigfht now but if I find someone well she will just have to make her mind up