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[oldgrape]

well everyone as most of you know i have a 14 month year old son and am 3 months pregnant me and mr.grape have just split up, he came home 2nite and said he needed a break so has gone to stay with his mum 4 a week or so and then will tell me if he wants to give it another go. the cheek of it he has left me ten quid to last the week! any1 able to make a voodoo doll that i can stab to bits please

[daffy654]

I'm sorry to hear what has happened oldgrape.Why not get over to chatterbank and have fun with the mad people on there to take your mind off what the git has done to you.I'm at a loss as to what else to say about him without swearing. I hope you manage to sort things out.xxx

[megan07]

I am very sorry, oldgrape, and my thoughts are with you, there has to be some good around the corner for you, so i send you all my love, and wish you the happiness you deserve, love megan. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[pussnboots]

Sorry to be a sceptic on this one, but has he got another woman. I only say this because...been there...bought the T shirt etc. The same thing happened to me once and he said needed time to sort himself out which actually meant..need time with other woman. Any man who leaves under the circumstances that you find yourself in..ie baby and another on the way is seriously out of order...so take care of yourself..do not rush after him, let him think you are ok and I'll bet he'll come running back...thats of course if you want him back......Take care..PussXX Sorry If I sound a bit off but what you are going through mirrors what happened to me to a ...TT...and thats a double T.

[Beads]

Oh oldgrape, you've not had much fun recently have you, poor thing. I think you have a bit of a fighting spirit though and hope you will be ok. x

[B00]

Awww Grapey, so sorry to hear that. Dunno what to say to you other than keep ya chin up girl, we're here if you need to whinge xx

[megan07]

How are you doing to day, i hope you feel a bit better, love megan. xxxxxxxx

[cruella]

Oh, my goodness,
I really can feel for you just now. What a time you are having.
I hate to say what another aber has said, but my ex did that to me years ago. My Son was recovering from an illness and he blamed the illness of my Son on the fact that he could not cope. He went for a week and unknown to me, there had been another woman on the scene for a few months. He denied it at first, but it all came out weeks later.
It could well be that he has been unable to cope with the recent stress but hey, we, as Mothers, all do it without a complaint. I was also left with little money, just a house and a mortgage.
I really do hope things work out for both of you but if not, then he is not worth anything.
A few years later I met the most wonderful man, married now and so glad my ex walked out the way he did. Just hang in there. xxx

[oldgrape]

daddy dearest came to see his sonm today he spent the whole of 15 mins in the flat and gave our son one cuddle and thats it! think i won't call this week a break and call it a wake up call of how little he cares about me, his son or unborn grape! he seemed abit shocked when he came round cause not being big headed but i looked good! and told him i was out tonight with old friends (i'm not i'm stuck at home as usual) seemed very jealous what a d!ck head

[cruella]

Good for you oldgrape.
GIve him a taste of his own medicine. Hope he gets a wake up all.
Good luck and go out and enjoy yourself but I am betting you will not be going anywhere tonight.

[sleepyj]

oh you poor thing .what a poo time your having .... stay strong chin up take care xx

[Ice-Maiden]

It'd be easy to say get rid of him og - but have you tried to sit down and talk - without arguing - to find out what the problems are? Is it financial (a new baby's going to drain resources even further) - the fact that he didn't really want another family addition? - he's depressed about something? Sometimes, it's worth trying to keep your partner, but if he's a lost cause, then you can get lots of help, and you just might be better off on your own. The best of luck, anyway.

[caz247]

hope you feel a bit better today

on a lighter note voodoo dolls don't work on people
you know lol

caz x

[redcrx]

oh oldgrape, im sorry to hear that mr grape is being such an @rse hun.

sending you lots of hugs and the strength to give him hell. Goin through what you did wasnt easy on any of you so what gives him the right to think he can take the easy option?

xxx

[Skreecheeboy]

Erm, does he know you're pregnant? Is it his? Do you often lie to him? Could you have brought this all on yourself? Sorry to play devil's advocate but folk have been very quick to jump to conclusions about a very complex problem with very little information from you oldgrape. I think you should try and stick together and not let your hormones get in the way. Speak to him, it might be that he just needs to get used to the idea of becoming a dad again.

[4getmenot]

me me me, I can make voodoo dolls

[sleepyj]

forget your a devil !!

[helliebobs]

Sorry to hear your news oldgrape, there's no denying things will be tough but you will get through it for the sake of your kids. My husband and I split up when I was 8 months pregnant and he's now 8 months old. I couldn't have managed without my family and various friends who have been a shoulder to cry on/punchbag to knock the crap out of. Do you have any family nearby?
Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy, be strong :)