what do you think

[boxerboy]

can anyone answer this one .Twelve years ago your on holiday with your wife ,you meet an interesting couple you get along with.......she just happens to be extremely god looking,the guy seems to live his own life. You stike up a common link with this girl and your wife seems to think she's very friendly....you finish your holiday and your left feeling that you had alot in common with her....youarrange to meet up as couples but nothing ever materiaises. Now .... put the clock forward twelve years and you happen to meet at the airport going on seperate holidays..you know she looks at you the same way you look at her with the same feelings as previous .... what do you do

[Shirl]

You having a mid life crisis?

[dannyday5821]

what would i do? depends on a stupid number of other factors. for a start...im married, so do i love my wife, do i really want to have an affair? would she know? could i get away with it? would i "want" to get away with it, would the guilt be too much for me?

i think if this was me, id recall the first holiday as a good memory and leave it at that. I mean come on! 12 years later - is she THAT attractive, in all aspects? id leave it, keep as friends even, but i wouldnt take it further. thats me anyway.

[Richie1976]

Threesome!

[Razor7]

You get her out of your mind. Its a dangerous game you are playing.

[4GS]

You do nothing

[lilminxlou]

yeah sure get with this other woman,
....... if your willing to throw away years of marriage and trust and loyalty and probably break your wifes heart.
its just an urge.

[JK2]

I think you know exactly what to do boxerboy.

The questions are - do you want to remain married to your present wife? Have you got children? Would it be worth all the upset & hurt?

It's just an attraction - we all feel those occasionally if we are still alive - but you could throw everything away and find you don't want it anyway.

[maggie01]

I agree with Shirl. My husband is having a mid life crisis.
Try and do nothing. Your wife will suffer big time. It stinks believe me.

[banjobabe]

With a bit of luck your wife will be ahead of you and will have already run off with the husband!

[Beads]

remember your marriage vows and why you took them.

[FUZZYBEE]

If her feelings for you and your feelings for her were that strong then i'm sure you wouldn't both have waited for 12 years. It's just a coincidence that you have seen each other again and nothing more, surely you must see other people every day whom you think are attractive and just for a split second wish you could get to know them better? Ususally the other person is unaware or it's just a fleeting glance on the bus/train etc etc and then you snap back into reality and go about your business and forget them..................which is exactly what you should do now. ps you said you looked at each other with the same feelings, you don't look with feelings, you have an expression, feelings are what is in your heart hopefully for your wife. Looks really aren't everything.

[eyeshade]

This rings a lot of bells....!! Mr. ES did the same thing about the same time as well, kept the girls address and all. My advice would be forget it. Your wife was good enough to put up with your leering and dribbling at the time. Would you risk your marriage for that? If you have been married for over 12 years, surely you can be mature enough to put it down to experience and move on?

[legend758duo]

what did mr es do about it tho ?

[Reverandfunk]

Think you need to get a grip and stop fantasizing about some bird who smiled at you when she was drunk 12 years ago.

[Pippa68]

I'm with the Rev.

Not literally, you understand.

[Reverandfunk]

You wish Pippa.

You wish....

lol

[Pippa68]

Not after your dalliance with Octavius I don't.

I was supposed to be in that sandwich and you carried on without me :o(