Behaviour problems at school and needing a one to one

[rebajayne]

My 6 year old son has had behaviour problems for a few years and I have struggled to get anyone to help me within the classroom finally I have got some help with an Educational psychologist. She is coming in to observe him
I have tried to push for a one to one but they say he doesn't need one although in the classroom he struggles to hold his attention and in the play ground is still getting into trouble, then last week a boy in his class who needs a one to one was on holiday so his mentor worked with my son, he has had one of the best weeks in 2 years and has come home with stickers on his top and his work has been perfect. I have now spoke to the school and asked if there is anything we can do to get him some help in the classroom and the answer is no because they can not afford it as there budget is near the limit.
I can understand that point of view but if this is what my son needs to help him and others around him surly there is something I or the school can do?

[Mairzydotes]

I truly feel for you. My son is now in his 40s, and a wonderful man, dearly loved by the family and friends, and liked and respected by colleagues.
Like your boy, he had a hard time at school. He did not have behavioural difficulties, but always found it hard to get on with other children. We thought it was because we were in our late 30s when he was born, and all our friends' children were so much older, so he wasn't used to relating to children of his own age. This was not from choice, we wanted a large family, but he was an 'only' born just before our 9th wedding anniversary.
He was 'different' very 'old' for his age. Also very mature looking, and at four he looked like a seven year old. People expected him to behave like a seven year old, when he was four.. He was bullied both mentally and physically, and hated school because of this!
He had a very high IQ, but constantly underachieved throughout his school career, and later at college.
And he has always had very low self-esteem, which has really upset us, as we (naturally) think he is wonderful.
He lives with a woman he loves, who suffers from severe depression, and who makes his life an utter misery, though he never days a word against her. (I'm not being spiteful, we love her too.)
He has spent some time in the Priory, and has had many sessions of therapy and counselling.
In the last week we have been told that there is a possibility that he has always suffered from Asperger's Syndrome, which would explain his problems throughout his life. We have to wait for a diagnosis, but are praying that it will be positive, then at last he can receive some appropriate treatment.
So PLEASE keep trying. Ask them to go down EVERY possible avenue, and get him the help he needs before he is sentenced to a lifetime of misery!
My very best wishes to you, and to the boy

[Pippa68]

Your school may well get the funding once the psychologist has visited.

I am going through the same sort of thing with my daughter, who is in the process of being diagnosed with ADHD and an ASD. Both you and the school need to push for these appointments and visits and it is a long process.

Unfortunately the government will only stretch the budget further if medical diagnosis is made :o(

Good luck x

[EngTeach]

PUSH,PUSH, PUSH the school. Be vocal about it. You are the only advocate your son has. At times this is the only way to gett hings done.

[Ice.Maiden]

These are the sort of replies which matter. Mairzydotes - I think you've done amazingly well with your son, and it's true to say that he may have AS, as many people with this condition are very bright, but since he was bullied at school, it's no wonder his self esteem's low. Rebajayne - yes, you must push for help for your son, and get a medical diagnosis. My son was the same, but found to be autistic. He now gets as much help as possible. My other son had borderline ADHD. He had no food intolerance or allergies, so we were told that he'd outgrow the condition. Thankfully this is happening. My best wishes to you all.

[Ice.Maiden]

Nite zig - unless you come back!

[rebajayne]

Thanks for you positive replays, i am meeting with the Ed Pysch tomorrow so i shall put on a post and let you know how ive got on. Im awaiting a blood test back for food allergies so maybe that may help too.
As for chattabonk get your self a life, this is something that is very important to me and I dont need no hopers like yourself crashing my post.

[manic-mother]

Hi rebajayne, I know how you feel totally , my 7 year old son has had social and behavioural problems since the age of 2 and trying to get a diagnosis for him has been nigh on impossible but have requested an assessment for him and so fingers crossed. He has had paediatric assessments already but the only thing that has come back is slow processing problems.
Even though the professionals have claimed that he is not on the autistic spectrum many of my friends and aquaintances have suggested aspergers syndrome or A.D.D. but my advice is to keep at it no matter what as this is your childs fututre at stake , best of luck mate!!!