Single/Separated for a Reason????

[stevie1time]

Let me start by saying...Hope yow all had a great crimbo and see the new year in with smiles and exceptional aspirations ;) .....Right,not so much a question but a personal view! Honest replies and criticisms appreciated..So!!! Obviously i am single,have been for nearly two years now,it has its ups and it has its downs..(this is awkward to word) right,i know why i am single,i know what caused my relationship with the mother of my kids to fail,i know it was my fault and i know that my actions and attitude(at that particular time) has made me the single/separated person i am today...Now is it wrong that i see this in anyone that i meet or consider maybe dating...I think to myself,why are they single,or why are they divorced,at one point in their lives,as in my own,someone didnt want them or cheated on them or maybe even they cheated,or someone divorced them,basically something was wrong with them or in their lives that has made them single...just like i know why i am?? Now i am not a negative person at all,the opposite in fact,,but what do you think folks?? am i wrong and being selfish or am i just over cautious to my next step?? P.S if this is dont make sense,then one understands XXXX

[China Doll]

In the nicest possible way I think a group kick up the jacksy would work better.... But I do mean it in the nicest possible way.

[stevie1time]

Thaks for the replies,im glad that im not alone on this one....I ask moreso because of my ex,she's one of these people that needs to be with someone...she is/was reasonable and able to talk to when her new fella wasnt about but when he was, as ive said in past questions that she was very horrible to me about seeing kids,finances etc,(i want to make clear that i havent looked at her in any other way than the mother of my kids for years,if we didnt have kids i most certainly wouldnt want to be her friend,the devil incarnate) Anyway,they got matching tattoo's within weeks,and he proposed...God i dont half tell a story the long way round...Right,my only advice to her was my above asked question...that he was divorced for a reason,he dosent make an effort with his own kids,someone ****** him off for a reason,just as she did i...Anyway...4 months of marriage and he left her 3 weeks ago to move in with another woman..left her without money..etc etc..ive helped out simply because of my kids...i havent said 'i told you so' but hey folks i did tho didnt i lol....

[tiggerblue10]

This is going to sound very selfish now but I think I want a baby more than a relationship at the moment. Is it so wrong of me to feel that way? I'm 36.

I know what you mean EngTeach about what family and friends think. My mum asked me if I was a lesbian once. I think I would have more success if I was gay.

[EngTeach]

I agreee with China- Most of the time it does not matter or bother me, but once in a while........

[Petal~flower]

EngTech, my friends ask if I am seeing anyone , which i shrug off and say NO! then make loads of excuses as to why lol


You tend to think though, that there must be something wrong with you.

Also, do you get a bit obsessive when you go out shopping and see couples together, and think, whats so wrong with me?

And China, I guess you are a lot younger than us?

[111116661111]

yeah

arse lickers
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brown noses

pathetic

[Petal~flower]

p*ss off 111116661111

cretin

[111116661111]

ugga ugga

pathetic

go meet peeps u lot


ffs

[111116661111]

petal flower u is de worse

patheic little creature

fook off


ye!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[pastafreak]

petal-you just nailed it on the head for me-god am i jealous sometimes----gotta go -daughter wants laptop xx nite all

[Petal~flower]

I dont think its selfish Tigger.

[111116661111]

so u iz yer man fookin tongiht?

[China Doll]

I don't know how old you all are. I'm 29. But I don't think that makes a difference to be honest.

Companionship is one thing. Spending the next 40 years of my life asking how someone elses day is just because it's nice to have companionship is far too high a price to pay. If I have another relationship in my life it has to be for the right reasons, not because I want a child or because I just get lonely from time to time.

[tiggerblue10]

Awww thanks Petal xxx

[EngTeach]

Well, 11116666111,
If you are lurking on this post at 1:30 am on a Saturday, you must not be out meeting people either.

I am signing off for now. The ironing is calling my name.

Might be back later.

[Petal~flower]

111116661111. fook off

[111116661111]

petal flower fook off

u know u iz a slaggggggggggggg


on de internet for a shaaaaaaaaaaaaaaagggggggggggg


fvuk off sluuuuuuuuuuutttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt

[Petal~flower]

get your pj's on 111116661111 and get to bed.

[111116661111]

eng!!!!!!!!!!!

ooops!!!!!!!!!!!!!

wanna see me kilt!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


gimpo

[Petal~flower]

I know who you are. You 2 faced git