Do you think I am being unfair?

[shellywelly]

My husband and I have 3 children aged 9,8, 3. My husband works full time 38 hours per week. I am training part time to be an infant teacher. Lately my husband and I have been arguing about the amount of time he spends on his xbox. He comes home from work has something to eat then more or less plays on his xbox till 12 o clock at night. Every day. Because of this I am really struggling with my studying. He wont look after the kids so I can get on with my homework so I have to half heartedly do my homework while I am running around looking after the kids. I have told him he should be helping with the kids and the running of the house more but it goes in one ear and out of the other. I have told him he is addicted to the xbox and he says I know I am so what. I would just like some advice really as he says that all his mates are on there x boxes all the time and im just a moaner.

[kujawski]

cant you fix it to be accidently broken some how? so he cant play it,.(untill he gets it repaired but at least hell have one day without it)

[silver_fern]

Your husband is being selfish... yes he may want to 'chill out' and forget the working day when he gets home... but every evening all evening?!

If he didn't have a young family and a wife it wouldn't be a problem... but he has...and it is...

He could spend a couple of hours 'quality time' entertaining the kids after dinner - so you could revise - and still get 3 hours on the x box!

[888sally888]

I think he is being really unfair. Tell him you will split up with him and then he can have the kids for a few hours a day in his nice bedsit!!

Seriously, put your foot down and say he can go on it at 9pm say so you get some time to study. He should be proud of you.

[4getmenot]

No not at all, my boyfriend came round saturday night and had bought his xbox, well I said right play on that I;m going to bed, he knew he'd done wrong I mean I wouldnt take a games console round his. He plays on it when he's at his now or after I've gone to bed. Your husband needs to make more of an effort around the house, go out one night with your mates and let him see how much you do. Or when he comes home for his dinner dont make him any, and just say oh sorry I;ve been playing on your xbox all afternoon I forgot to make any

[sense4all]

Tell him it looks like sooooo much fun you are going to join him and plug in a second controller. No dinner, no tiding etc etc as you are busy doing your homework so no time to spare. Or kick him in the joystick, having spent the evening using the new sky multi remote �15 hidden in your folder to turn the tv off preferably when he is doing really well too!

[cazzzz1975]

He needs to grow up, maybe he is on there to dodge having to be a dad and pull his weight?, why not go on strike (as far as he is concerned his meals, attention ect) until he at leasts starts acknowledging what you do and helping out.

His kids will have no relationship with him as they get older if they rarely ever see him now.

[SKA]

hide a vital xbox wire and blame the kids then he'll keep an eye on them!!

[Konsai]

he seriously is treating it as if he was a kid, im 18 and im not that bad, but even if i was i can cause i dont have children... i may be unexpirienced but i am really sensible and stuff..

He should really play xbox after his family.
I mean camon if i had a kid it would be so cool!
he needs to grow up and stop treatin you as his mother, dont make him dinner... as others have said STRIKE!, if he wants to play games and do jack**** at home then make him do his own dinner, or just give him microwave food XD