Can a man be to nice ?

[Roy262]

I'm a guy who treats a lady like a lady complements them on how they look and might buy them flowers or small gifts every now and then..
I don't go daft or over bored..
Why I'm asking this because I'm for ever being told id be a great catch for some one single. And many females of all ages cant understand why I've not been snapped up..
So I'm trying to work out if I'm doing something wrong or just unlucky or going to the wrong places..

[weeal]

well you do sound like a gent

I have to say that I know guys who I would describe as "too nice", it depends on your nature and the way you say or do things, not just what you say or do sometimes, but what is nice to some isnt nice to others

agree with Red, you will meet the right girl one day, I presume your young(ish)

[B00]

Well there's a difference to being a gent and being boring with it, not that im suggesting you're dull Roy!

What i mean is, it's all very well being gallant etc etc, but if that's all you've got to offer (and again, im not saying it is in your case) it'll soon get dull and boring for any woman.

Mix the chivalry with a wicked sense of humour and a massive bank account (oh ok, only kidding about that bit) and you're golden.

You obviously just haven't found Miss Right yet Roy- hang in there, she'll be out there somewhere, good luck :-)

[Roy262]

I am a gent red/weeal but some times i wish i wasn't but i cant change they way i am.
I say that because as we go through life we all get knock backs then i think i should treat them like the other blokes they seem to come better off..
I do know what you mean Boo..
Ive always had a laugh with these women i have been told they thought i was a quite guy until they got to know me.
I'm seem to find females who have had no loving family while growing up. And find it hard someone showing them affection and giving them compliments.
As my last said she loved the way i was but didn't know how to show it back because she had men who treated her with know respect, and wasn't used to compliments.
Maybe like you say i haven't found Miss right..

[unrulyjulie]

Roy, i reckon you sound like a lovely, decent guy from previous posts ;-)

Im sure you've just not met the right one as of yet. there are plenty of women, myself included who like to be treated this way. Dont give up just yet.

[sandrajo]

Hi Roy,

My niece has just dumped her boyfriend. I asked why and she told me he was 'too nice', I honestly don't understand it he is a lovely guy, good looking, thoughtful, well dressed, good job, great car, own flat, comfortably well off....some people just don't know what they want. Some girls just like a bit of the bad boy in their guy, I don't know why but the majority do!

[meglet]

This is no doubt going to be taken wrong and i am honestly not suggesting this is you Roy but sometimes men that are "too nice" come off as kind of creepy.

[Quoi]

Roy - all the answers you're getting suggest you'll find someone - do you believe them? Aren't they just being nice to you? didn't notice any offers in amongst it? So can you be too nice - yes Should you stop - no

[Roy262]

I guess i will have to wait there is no rush..
I do seem to find females who don't stay in a relationships long I've noticed this with most of my ex,s 6-12 months then there with another.
As I'm over 40 most females have been there and done it and are out for a good time. Well that seems to be the case I've found.
I'm not saying i want a full on and marriage i just want a partner who i can TRUST and go out as a couple and have a laugh...

[weeal]

Quoi, how can avatars on a website offer a relationship to another lol

[weeal]

Roy there are a few of us on here looking for the same as you are and not finding it, and dating websites dont work either, maybe we should all take a chill pill and see what happens in our lives instead of chasing it

[Quoi]

Hi Weeal - did I mention relationships;-)

[weeal]

Red - tried them both and came across a load of weirdos!

Quoi, soz just that you said nobody had made Roy an offer

[Roy262]

Fancy a date Julie :o)
Ha ha Quoi i did notice..... as i know what this site is like people do speak there minds so i don't take it as there just being nice........

[Roy262]

That is one thing i don't do weeal i go out for a laugh if i meet someone then OK if i don't it doesn't matter..