Why is it?

[banjobabe]

That whilst I am in a relationship and debating ending it (because I don't feel special or important in my other halfs life) I feel this is the right decision. But As soon as I end it I start remembering all the good times and I panic because it's the end? When I suggested we call it a day he didn't have anything at all to say, when I asked him how he felt he said he didn't know! BB xx

[andrea81]

I personally think that ending a relationship is brave, if thats how you feel, then you are probably right to end it. It's only natural for you to think about the good times, but I suspect your gut instict in ending was the right one!

[cazzz1975]

he could be in shock, its quite a statement, give him some time to get his head around it.

Its normal to panic, not just because of the enormity of bringing your thoughts out in public, but also the fear of being alone and not only losing him as a lover but also as a friend.

[lil123]

If the relationship doesn't feel right and you can't work it out then it is very brave to end it
Even in the worst relationships you always remember the good stuff sometimes but they end for a reason
Once you are with the right person it all makes sense x

[banjosister]

Hey Guys,

Thanx for your views. He's not in shock cazz we've been here before, always the same reasons.

I have a tendancy to keep going back but I feel like I'm flogging a dead horse. I so want him to tell me that he loves me more than anything and that we can sort it out.

I guess I've finally got to grips with the fact it's never gonna happen.

Last month he told me I am the best thing that ever happend to him. It just doesn't feel that way.

Cheers folks.

BB xx

[cuddleMe]

well i didnt get any reaction or response!! men eh?

[banjosister]

Hey cuddle,

After six and a half years I thought he might at least manage a sentance!!

I'm currently floundering between - I deserve better and I need to see him now!

I'm currently deserving better....

BB xx

[cuddleMe]

i know exactly how you feel BB, it just makes u feel that did he really wanted me in the first place?

u said u had been with him for over 6yrs and he stil had no reaction and doesnt know how he felt? if he had felt something etc.. he would be begging you back etc but hes a male i dont know how they think and what they do?

i hadnt been long with my last guy but for weeks i have been holding it back (thinking about the good times then panic)..then thinking.. it will get better it wil change etc but it just drifted away...we hardly met, if we do its just meetin up for a drink then bk to his.. i just didnt feel special anymore or part of his life either. -cos u can just sense something aint right. it was really annoying when i sent that email to him -cos his phone 'got nicked' (or did it?) i dunno long story but end of the day no response or any reaction... i sometimes wonder if i hadnt sent that msg would i stil be with him right now?? Are guys afraid of ending relationships?

[banjosister]

Yeah I know what you mean cuddle.

As I said to him, I have no idea what or how you are thinking, I am not a mind reader you have to tell me.

Ah well.

BB xx

[cuddleMe]

BB referr it to the All Saints song- Never Ever


xxxxx