how often do you see your bf or gf?

[sunchime]

I have been going out with my boyfriend for 5 months. Everything is fine, but compared to my other boyfriends we dont see each other very often. We normally see each other once in the week and then a friday or a saturday night and usually on a sunday night. We very rarely spend weekends together as i work monday-friday and he works saturday. Sunday he has band practice in the daytime.

So how often do you see your partner? Am I thinking this is too little? Or am i a bunny boiler??
thanks guys

[sammy snake]

I think it varies from person to person. If it suits you then that's fine for the moment. A few months down the line I would be expecting to see them a bit more often though. At least he is doing something like working or band practice and not choosing to go out with other people rather than see you. Maybe your other friends don;'t have such commitments at the weekends which means they can see their other halves more often.

I have a friend who has been seeing her boyfriend 3 months, she sees him EVERY night which to me, is way too much - I like some 'me' time!

Another friend was upset because her long term boyfriend wanted to go out with his mates one friday night (just one, not every week). She was very insecure and couldn't understand why he didn't want to be with her every night. I couldn't help, I was on his side!!

[888sally888]

I think its very healthy to have a balance between your bf and your friends.

Bfs come and go, but riends are for ife. I feel you have got the balance about right. His band practice is obvioulsy important to him and its nice you are happy for him to do this.

[4getmenot]

Most days apart from Tuesday and Wednesdays. But also dont see him if I have anything to go to with other mates. I dont see why couples have to spend every moment together if they are hopefully going to be with them for life.

[BradPlantpot]

Too bloody often, but at the end of the day how do i tell her that I love my XBOX more than i love her???

These things in life are sent to try us!

[4getmenot]

babe is that you?? lol

[DarkMajes71c]

see him as much as you are both comfortable with as stated above keep the ballance between your friends and your BF... my first long term relationship left me a billy no mates as i spent all my free time with my ex after 3 years my old mates were a bit supprised i had resurfaced. i have made sure i have kept time free for them ever since. i only get to see my gf on the weekends as she lives in london and im in brum... but we do spend way to much time on skype.

[CAJ1]

We've been together a year and a half and he now lives with me so I see him everyday. We go out together and also seperatly with our own friends. We make sure we have a healthy balance and trust each other completly.

At the beginning of our relationship we saw each other a few times a week. You can see someone too often, you both need your own space to do your own things

[Velvetee]

When I started seeing mine, we saw each other every day and if that wasn't possible, spoke on the phone. We now live together and have spent very little time apart in 18 months

[leelapops]

Hello sunchime, I see mine every day, as we live together, and even in the beginning we saw a lot of each other. But I know this isn't entirely common. I think your situation sounds fine, as long as you are OK with it. If you aren't, maybe some compromises could be arranged?

If you are, then don't worry about it. It's a pretty subjective situation, and comparisons with other couples don't really work because everyone has different circumstances and preferences.
x

[lil123]

I see my boyfriend about twice a week as he lives about 44 miles away and I dont have a car at the moment. We are talking about living together and me moving over where he is but it won't be for maybe another year yet.
I find it hard when I need him and he isn't here but then I had been single a while before I met him with my own small family so it's not that bad really and I get to do the things I want to still .

[Leapers]

HI sunchime
i think you're lucky to see your bf that much i see mine maybe twice a week and sometimes like last week i didn't see him atall we are both very busy all the time but when we are together its amazing and i love the time so much more as i know there is very little of it.
If you feel like you want to see him more then do it but if your happy with the amount of time then leave it as it is.