Thought i never would have found love!

[puddicat]

Struggled for years to find someone after my marriage broke down to find a partner that i could love again,fought through so many emotional issues could write a book!!!!dont want to go too much into this, met someone and yes i did it again, destroyed it cos i always do, he now keeps me at arms length, says that i have, emotional issues and havent seen him in 6 months but we keep in contact thru txtsand comments to my funny emails,miss him so much the bombastic piece of intelligent manhood, i have changed now given up things i shouldnt have influenced my thinking,but he is stubborn and rigid how do i get across to him, to give me one more chance

[sara3]

I think it's time to ask him. you need to get on with it or start moving on. it's harsh but you can't keep living in hope where there may be none there..

[puddicat]

yep sara u are right he said to move on but says when he is on business abroad that he has bought me perfume and such but never delivers it,i can understand why lol!!!

[puddicat]

thanks legend some sense!!

[sara3]

sounds like he's keeping you dangling, which is naughty of him. take control of the situation. you may not get the result you're hoping for but you'll get back your self-respect.

I hope it turns out well for you.

[cazzz1975]

sounds like mixed messages to me, you both need to have a frank discussion, if he is not interested at all in a reconciliation then you will have to move on and try to put any hopes out of your head.

there are more fish in the sea, armed with your knowledge of how the last relationship failed, you can make a new start on the next one.

[lajohn]

puddiecat hope things work out for you how you want them to. this post reminds me of your other post i think you should have a serious conversation with yourself. don't force love or the relationship, if it's meant to be it will happen effortless.

[Velvetee]

To be honest, if this guy no longer wants you in his life, due to your past problems and emotional baggage, then why would you want to be with someone apparently so unsupportive.

In a serious relationship you have to take the rough with the smooth, sounds like he only wants the smooth. I've been with my partner for 18 months and I get very bad PMS, which makes me unbearable to live with at times. I know he loves me, as he's just happy to be there for me when I'm at my lowest.

You may have problems, as do most of us, but you need to be with someone who will give you the emotional support you need, in order to be able to get through the rough times yourself. Don't keep blaming yourself, you are who you are and don't feel you need to beg him to give you another chance.

[puddicat]

Thanks for everyones input,velvetee is right, when his marriage broke down he sailed through it,said it had been dying for years,but for me even though i have got over my marriage now for some reason i struggle with relationships, think its the trust thingy,he isnt going to be there emotionally for me, so i have to move on, though i think of him often, and i know he does me,but if i am honest with myself , i already know the answer!!!!