out on the pull tonight

[angryman2008]

not just after one thing, ideally would like to make friends with a load of girls but trying to b realistic, i havent got gift of gab and actually approaching makes me cringe as i know they probably know what im doing. dont want to make it a big deal of it or make it the focus of the night but im feeling good young and healthy so whats the harm in attempting to have a love life? any tips apart from the be confident and tough love cliches?

[beso]

I don't think having the most confidence is the key. Confidence easily becomes arrogance which is a real turn off to most women.

Women also want to see an edge of vulnerability so there is some hope of deeper communication in a relationship. Communication is a foundation of good relationships. Listen to what they say and be interested. You need to make a woman curious to find out more about you so avoid coming on too strong.

You have recognised that woman can see a guy making a move a mile off. You need to forget about "trying to pull". Just be yourself and interact with women without the pressure of wondering is she "the one" or "am I wasting my time?" Try to think of women as people rather than as potential partners. Few women will go for a guy who is too enthusiastic, clingy or exceptionally romantic to quickly.

Rather than testing every woman you meet it is much easier to present yourself as an appealing package and let the women make the choices. In the end they are the ones who decide so why not skip chasing girls who just aren't into you.

Remember, the really interesting women don't look among the players. Once you stop looking, some woman will spot your potential. You will be surprised how quickly it happens. And of course in one of the great ironies, once you have a girlfriend you become rapidly more appealing to every woman.

[Sachs]

In a nut shell! By the way, how did your night out go angry ??

[angryman2008]

well i didnt pull or get any numbers it was same old really the girls already have bfs or their own mates and dramas going on......i did get complimented on my aftershave and also one very pretty girl told me i was very cheeky in a good way....and once id realised i was out of time i tried chatting to girls at the taxi rank.....whereas one mate who is recently single and another who has a long distance gf noth pulled !!!! so unfair.....its the same old in pubs and clubs.....i need another avenue but where else can you find single girls?????

[Roughquest]

Sorry angryman, you sound a bit desperate.....perhaps you are trying too hard, there are single ladies out there, just dont look too hard, just be yourself and be genuine, i believe in fate, 'the one' will come along when you least expect it, PS may I ask why you call yourself 'angryman'