single too long...

[monkhousebob]

ive been concentrating so hard at work ive forgotten im allowed a love life or private life. now i am not working i need some ideas. just dates would be good for now.....ive tried the usual internet sites with no luck....its not that i need some1 ,more that i used work as an excuse.....now i want a love life but feel slightly on the shelf....i am working on getting another job but i want some variety, some variety,fun.....im 24 and havent dated for like 2 years now.....ta

[elaine33]

go dancing, find your local salsa or ceroc class. (http://ceroc.com/uk/)
ceroc is very easy to learn and very sociable. You will meet loads of the friendliest people in the world and you will get a social life which is more fun that you would ever imagine and in turn I am sure a love life will follow. go out and enjoy.

[dezzydora]

I am so the same, I've been working so much and doin lots of different Uni courses i've forgotton what it feels like to get out and meet people unless i'm at work selling them something... I think a lot of people go through this, so just relax, when you're ready to find someone you will.. if you're thinking of new job, try doin an evenin class in your area, you'll meet new people, or even the gym...
Good luck though!!x

[boogieboogie]

I would recommend getting a social life first as there is more chance of meeting someone and variety in that. Evening classes (or day ones if you're not working), swimming or gym, community projects even voluntary work. As suggested above. Alternatively go on the pull at the wkends :-)

[monkhousebob]

im not working at the moment not throuch choice but redundancy...thing is i thought it might help but really im still not meeting people .i have a social life but they are all men and i can only take so much...much prefer female company but never seems to happen, can they be friends?? i rang salsa and goin college 1 day a week but it seems extreme way.....why is everyone less open to friendship and trust in the 20s? everyone seems too involved in their own matters

[dezzydora]

well thats the way it is now i suppose... but i've found the worst way to meet people is night clubs... one of the best is the local boozer on a relaxing evening when everyone is not out to get drunk... and stuff... Your doin the right thing, so give it time!

[boogieboogie]

Sorry but I read you are 'rang salsa' which automatically puts images of men groping women in my head' I think this is an excuse for men to touch up women. Anyway the next words were goin college, for some reason I inserted an r and thought you was going to attend 'groin college' if there isn't one already maybe you should start one.
You can't fail to meet someone in a bar or nightclub. Haven't you tried that?

[monkhousebob]

very funny.....bars and clubs are a rarity as friends have mortgages ,kids and other commitments whereas i am now more footloose than ever with no ties or job altho im tryin to find work.....bars and clubs are full of people just sticking to their groups...i rarely have struck up convo with a lady and if i do they are off their face anyway. just feels there are ssoooo many social codes to crack...i thought women would love to know caring friendly guys but i can count on one hand the amount of meaningful friendships i have with women....i dont want to be a player but hey all they have to do is click fingers......also wen i meet women in bars they usually are married or have kids. where are my equivalent, youn single no ties??????

[Sgt.Rock]

Not much hope for you really is there??

[melonberry]

I agree that night clubs and bars are a poor choice for meeting people. Those are normally filled with young party-people looking to hook up, not for something serious.

Maybe find a local coffee shop and bring a laptop/book to read. There will be lots of people going in and out, and likely some lady who'll catch your attention.

The gym/park is also a good place, assuming they aren't out of breath on a treadmill and unable to say 'yes' to a date! If you've got a dog, they are great ways to meet new people while taking them for a walk, playing on the beach, etc.

If you're not used to talking to strangers or striking up a convo, maybe you should hang around public places and practice approaching people. Then, when you meet someone you're interested in, you'll have more confidence :)

[mirela]

do you have any hobbies or interests? i found it is nice to meet people with similar hobbies. if you enjoy certain outdoor, you can go to certain forums and get to know people and do sports together, or go tomusic festivals, great way to know new people as well. 24 is young enough, plenty of time ahead. i dont think it is easy to meet a nice girl from night club either. some dating websites sitll worthy to try i think, i know lots people found people they love via internet.

[dezzydora]

Dont fret, I'm having the same problem as you, i tried to meet people in bars, and for me, they were the alcoholics that I found... but i dont even drink so theres no point of me going there, but evening classes, doing somet you will probably enjoy will work a treat, as i found cos everyone was female!! Which annoyed me, but to fellas it's great! Its something where you have to talk to people, and get to know them... and you never know... good luck sweets!!!