How do I deal with this

[mangosam]

My girlfriend means so much to me... we are in love. We are both 16. I have a situation, I am stressed and I just feel like killing someone. When I don't go to my fathers house I tend to spend time with my girlfriend on weekends. Both my father and older brother have briefly met my girlfriend but last night I found they have been talking about how they want to be with my girlfriend and **** her, in disgusting and vulgar ways. I have been told by my younger brother they talk about it when I am with my girlfriend on weekends too. I hate them, I hate that they think of that and would talk about it and think there is no problem with it. If I see them I know I will end up kicking thier faces in. I just need advice on this, and how I tell my girlfriend about it all. I hate family and guys in general, I can see why women complain about them so much and I know I am one but I am not a ****.

What do I do... someone please.

[pinktwink]

you need to talk to them about how you feel.
Have they ever expressed an interest in other underage girls?? For your girlfriends safety its best she is not on her own with them.
Do you spend weekends at her house?
Violence is not the answer they are older and stronger than you and will only make things worse

[terambulan]

Have a word to your mum of what you've heard; tell your sisters or female relations......they'll knock the stuffing outta the men for you!

[mangosam]

Dynamics are difficult between homes her house and my houses. I feel like really kicking thier heads to the ground, I could kill them in a fight I am bigger and more skilled than them. They won't ever see my girlfriend ever again. What do I do

[mangosam]

My mother love my older brother and wouldnt think he would do anything, i told her, and she was basically protecting him.

[terambulan]

Your right to be mad mangosam but doing them harm will get you locked-up and ur girl needs u for protection from these debased creatures. Warn them, if they touch her they will regret it. Tell the gf not to trust them. If anything happens, a good nut-cracking will put an end to their frustrations & lustings.

[DaisyMae]

Whatever you do, don't react to this unpleasantness. It may well be that they are simply trying to wind you up - in which case if you say or do anything they will know they have succeeded.

There is a huge distance between what is said and what is acted upon - these two are chatting about your girlfriend in an unsavoury way but that does not mean that they would actually follow their nastiness through with action.

My advice is keep your cool, stay away from them as much as is possible, and protect your girlfriend by explaining the situation gently so as not to alarm her unduly and persuade her to stay away from your father and brothers. Show the world that you are a man and in control of the situation - fighting will simply underline your immaturity and you and your girlfriend will be the ultimate losers.

Of course your mother won't hear bad things of your brother, she is programmed to protect and defend her offspring, so don't waste your breath complaining to her. Just keep a cool head and keep a distance between your father, brother and yourself as much as you are able.

So far, well done, you are talking about it and looking for advice, that is mature of you and you will find help. Good luck.

[sara3]

are you in the UK?

[brenda]

Both your father and your older brother are behaving in a very immaure way, and they are probably aware that it winds you up.

You on the other hand are coming across as a mature person.

Don't get into fights it will not do you any good, no matter how you feel.

Try to keep your girl friend away from them as much as you can , and when the time is right explain to her why you are doing so.
Just something simple like the fact that you don't like their attitude to women and that it upsets you, and that you don't want her to be exposed to their juvenile talk and behaviour, because you have too much respect for her and that you love her.
When they find that they no longer can get to you and cause upset , they will soon find someone else to lust about.
So stay calm , not easy, and just concentrate on the things that are important to you.

Best of luck.

[brenda]

Sorry, meant immature way.

[mangosam]

My family isnt for life, my partner is. I will just keep my distance and not talk to them or see them again, its as simple as that I think. So I will stick with this plan. Thank you for your advice. And yes I am in the UK