How shall I deal with this?

[mangosam]

My girlfriend means so much to me... we are in love. We are both 16. I have a situation, I am stressed and I just feel like killing someone. When I don't go to my fathers house I tend to spend time with my girlfriend on weekends. Both my father and older brother have briefly met my girlfriend but last night I found they have been talking about how they want to be with my girlfriend and **** her, in disgusting and vulgar ways. I have been told by my younger brother they talk about it when I am with my girlfriend on weekends too. I hate them, I hate that they think of that and would talk about it and think there is no problem with it. If I see them I know I will end up kicking thier faces in. I just need advice on this, and how I tell my girlfriend about it all. I hate family and guys in general, I can see why women complain about them so much and I know I am one but I am not a ****.

What do I do... someone please.

[DONNA1458]

Refrain from telling your girlfriend at the moment. Are you sure that your younger brother is telling the truth first??? Do not take your girlfirend to the house. Then approach your father and brother and tell them that you have over heard them so not to get your brother into trouble and that its not something that you find funny, that it stops!!

[jenniprice]

Yeh don't tell your girlfriend, it will upset her, and make her feel uncomfortable coming round yours.

Like say maybe you're brother has over exagurated the situation, maybe they just said in a nice way that the thought she was good looking. Maybe your brother just said wouldn't mind bit of that-in a jokey way rather than I want to **** her.
Your younger broter may have just taken it out of context.

Best thing to do is sit down with them and say what you feel, without killing anyone!

If you feel really aggressive then as you're about to go out, tell your father and brother as you are about to leave one day.
Just say clamly that you've heard what saying and not pleased. Then camly leave and go out.
This will give them time to mull over what you have said and for you to remain clam.

Then perhaps speak to them again about it.
If they value your feelings they will sit you down and expalin the situation, and presume apologise.

Good luck, just remember everyone makes mistakes and they may have just been having a joke.

[unhappychick]

Personally I would be quite upset by the comments that they have made and you have every right to be angry....I would confront them in a calm way about it and tell them you are aware of theer comments and you dont like it and its disrespectful to you and your relationship...leave it at that and see what they come back with, but dont loose the plot as you will end up being the bad guy!

You said when you go to your fathers....do you mean your mother and him are seperated? If so, I wouldnt take her round there anymore and try and spend some time together elsewhere...good luck and keep calm!

[rov1200]

What you are experiencing is what most 16 year old males go through. Time will allow you to meet many other girls and its rare to wed the first girl in your life although it may seem the wish to do so. Just treat it as an experience and broaden your friendships so in time other factors such as beauty and sex will be replaced with less emotional experiences and more to do with compatability.

[joko]

rov...did you even read the question...?

[beso]

Dump your looser family.

[rov1200]

Joko are you real! He wants to kill them! A self understanding of his emotions is what is required, not some revenge.

[joko]

no rov...he is venting his anger... thats all ... he is not about to murder his family because of a few comments...

his question was what to do about the SITUATION not your opinion on his youthful emotions...

you may be right he does need to calm down... but that isnt what the question was about...

[Ice.Maiden]

This's been posted before. Hope you're sorted out now, mangosam.