I need to rant............predatory woman.......

[HJT40]

My partner and I live together and work together, although I am in the office and he isn't. I love him and trust him with all my heart.

An "ex" from along time ago re-appeared just before we got together wanting to be with him. Although we had not yet been out properly he told her that he wanted to be with me. He said he had to be very clear to her that he was not interested as she pestered him by phone and text. She knows where he works and strangely enough she tried to sell equipment to the office, then his phone rang from a private number at 3.30 one saturday morning. No one spoke and he hung up, I am sure it was her. Now she has applied to rent one of the houses from our employers and had put the area in which we live as one of her preferences.

Something tells me this is not all a coincidence and that this woman is trying to get back near him somehow. I know he is not interested but I am so angry with her for doing this. I try not to let him see how annoyed I am and we carry on as happy as we are. But I sit and think about it, sometimes too much and get in a stew about it.

Argh! Thank you rant over - god I hate predatory women!

[4getmenot]

erm erm, what am I sposed to be writing or replying here?? lol. I;d just ignore it all. if he isnt intersted and you trust eachother whats to worry about. She sounds a bit cuckoo to me anyway

[HJT40]

Thank you 4getmenot. I am not sure what I was looking for either, but I needed to get it off my chest and by putting it in writing it kinda helped!

Have a good day! ;o)

[redcrx]

how can you be sure she called him in middle of the night. My phone has done that countless times, its telesales!!!!!

as for trying to sell to your company, perhaps thats her job! and maybe she thought that by knowing him would help her make a sale?

wanting to live in your area? Is it a dump? is there any reason why people wouldnt want to be in your area?

It sounds as if they are probably just coincidences but as 4get says, if your partner isnt interested then she wouldnt get anywhere if she tried would she

[4getmenot]

I know what you mean sometimes no matter how much you trust someone an ex sniffing around doesnt help

[HJT40]

Redcrx, thank you, someone else can always talk sense! You are absolutely right, I was so lost in my world of anger that I have let her become a problem, when she isn't and never will be!

She ain't getting my lovely man!

[kjc]

I agree with 4get....what are we supposed to reply?
You say that 'strangely' enough she tried to sell you both office equipment. you are using words like 'coincidence' and 'predatory' and that his phone rang, but there was no-one there....how do you deffinately 'know' it was this woman.
It seems to me the problem is in your head...
she might be a strange person, but also might be looking for friendship too. why do you distrust her so much to spoil what you have got with your man?
If you are getting in 'a stew' about it, then maybe it is your problem....not hers.

[redcrx]

its easy to see things that arent there at times when youre stressed and worried. Sometimes looking at it a different way is all thats needed.

:)

[happyone2]

i wonder if this is just one of those cases, where once you start looking for evidence, you surely do find it........................

im assuming you dont know for sure if the private no that rung so early in the morning was hers ??? you just think its her because of what is happening ? could it just have been a wrong no ?

if i couldnt live in the same area as my ex boyfriends there would be an awful lot of the area i couldnt live in !!!! why shouldnt she chose the same area........ .................. i have lived 3 streets away from an ex for 4 years, and not seen him once !!! so what does it matter ?

if her job is in sales, and your office could become a customer, then i think it could be deemed to be very professional of her to be able to put her feelings aside and go for the sale ??

i really do think that you are being paranoid, based on the information that you have given here ..................................... there might be more of course, but i cant see these jigsaw pieces fitting together at the moment

Regards

[HJT40]

kjc, I know how frustrated he got when she wouldn't leave him alone when she re-appeared. She would not let go easily and he had to go and tell her face to face to leave him alone. He also finds it odd that she keeps re-appearing via our work.

He has made it plain that he does not want friendship with her and it was not left on friendly terms because she made such a nuisance of herself.

Call it female intuition, which I actually believe in.

[4getmenot]

yooohoooo raggy I'm behind yoooooouuuuu

[happyone2]

i know you arent probably going to like this but as christine keeler said " well he would say that wouldnt he"

I think your boyfriend is saying what you want to hear and putting all the blame on her - just to keep the peace, actually i think hes not bothered whether she turns up at work or not, hes not interested in her and he is happy with you , he knows that hes not going to go back to her ( if he wanted to he would have done ) and therefore doesnt care what she does ......................... he probably thinks the whole thing is

he probably only gives the whole thing any importance because you keep bringing it up and looking for "evidence"

if you worry at a scab it bleeds, if youmistrust it breds lies, if you are insecure it will make you unhappy.............

just relax ................................................

[HJT40]

I only wanted to rant!

I trust my partner and I am not looking for anything to prove he is up to something because he isn't.

What I cannot understand, probably because I am not one, is why some women think anyone is fair game, especially if they are in a relationship. Personally I would never do to someone else what I wouldn't want done to me.

I wonder whether if this happened to one of these predatory women whether they would think it fair?