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Why does my man always have to look at naked pictures of women?
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My man is constantly receiving forwards of naked women from his friends. I tell him I don't appreciate it, and yet he still saves them and looks at them all the time...he even put one of them on his phone background the other night. It really bothers me and makes me feel insufficient and self-conscious. What should I do?
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maybe you should looka t naked guys and see how he feels about it huh! and if that dont work then maybe he dont apprctiste you for who you wre you should fine someone else like my granny use to say boys are like fish there is always another fish in the see waiting to be caught. Maybe it needs to be you out there catching those fish
It is possible that hes not looking at the naked pictures " all the time", but like most men, likes to look at the now and again ? i dont think you could ever stop them, its something they cant stop doing !!!
however, given that he knows it does upset you, i feel he may be being a tad insensitive to put them on his phone background.
i wonder if this is a time to both sit down and talk about what is troubling both of you in this relationship.....you dont say if you are married or how long together ??
and perhaps to ask yourself the questions
a) why do i feel insufficient and self conscious.
b) have i always felt like that? or has something happened to make me feel more self counscious etc.
c) does he make me feel cherished - does he love me?
d) do i love him ?
e) what do i need to be able to continue with him
f) do i want to continue with him ?
good luck
however, given that he knows it does upset you, i feel he may be being a tad insensitive to put them on his phone background.
i wonder if this is a time to both sit down and talk about what is troubling both of you in this relationship.....you dont say if you are married or how long together ??
and perhaps to ask yourself the questions
a) why do i feel insufficient and self conscious.
b) have i always felt like that? or has something happened to make me feel more self counscious etc.
c) does he make me feel cherished - does he love me?
d) do i love him ?
e) what do i need to be able to continue with him
f) do i want to continue with him ?
good luck
Men are more visual than women (we use our minds more and therefore dont need constant pictures).
The truth is, a lot of women are just as sexual as men but because men look at porn etc it is more obvious and makes it look like it is only men that think about sex.
I joke with my partner about porn as I dont see the harm in it. If it not 'hardcore' or involving illegal activities then you should just let him get on with it. Send him a naked photo of you so he can look at you instead :-)
The truth is, a lot of women are just as sexual as men but because men look at porn etc it is more obvious and makes it look like it is only men that think about sex.
I joke with my partner about porn as I dont see the harm in it. If it not 'hardcore' or involving illegal activities then you should just let him get on with it. Send him a naked photo of you so he can look at you instead :-)
we have been together alittle over 2 years. I do love him very much, and I know he loves me just as much in return. It makes me feel insufficient and self-conscious because I feel like I give him everything he wants and more. It makes me feel like I'm not good enough. I don't understand why he's so intrigued by all these naked women when he has a perfectly good one right in front of him.
happyone2 is right - men do like looking at naked women because we are biologically programmed that way. What is not programed is his insensitivity to the fact that you have advised him that this upsets you, and he is still doing it.
Don't approach this from a 'them rather than me' angle - every man looks at naked women, no matter how gorgeous his partner is.
You should talk in terms of the fact that he is ignoring your insecurity, which is rude and insensitive of him, and he needs to stop. If he makes light of it, tell him you don't, and it is causing an issue.
You could always try openly leering at every fit guy you see when you are with him - no jokingly, be discreet,, but make sure he sees it happening, and if he asks you, tell him if he likes it?
If your man wants to be 'one of the guys', he can pretend to look at the pics, then delete them.
You need to sort this out, it is a relationship issue, and it's not going to go away.
Good luck.
Don't approach this from a 'them rather than me' angle - every man looks at naked women, no matter how gorgeous his partner is.
You should talk in terms of the fact that he is ignoring your insecurity, which is rude and insensitive of him, and he needs to stop. If he makes light of it, tell him you don't, and it is causing an issue.
You could always try openly leering at every fit guy you see when you are with him - no jokingly, be discreet,, but make sure he sees it happening, and if he asks you, tell him if he likes it?
If your man wants to be 'one of the guys', he can pretend to look at the pics, then delete them.
You need to sort this out, it is a relationship issue, and it's not going to go away.
Good luck.
Completely agree with Sara3 , if a man doesnt listen to how your feeling, make them! Its quite simple to do!!! My mate had a man that she caught on the phone to sex lines and he had the odd mag stuffed in places he thought she wouldnt find them...she was very upset and hurt by it, I said, get yourself a mag with men in it and put it somewhere where he will find it but it looks like its been hidden...she did and I was there to see the result...hilarious, he went mad and threw it out of the window!!! lol
I speak from experience with this situation and beleive me men will never stop looking at naked women !
They are turned on by the unobtainable and thats just in their make up ! It doesnt mean he loves you any less or even that he fancies you any less !
I had the same situation after i had my daughter and to be honest i think it was more to do with the way i felt about myself ! x I think you need to make a pact together to sit down and say ok we not going to try and change each other but this makes me unhappy , how can we get round it so we are both happy !
I found that if i nagged him and went on about it to him he would just hide it more , it wouldnt stop it ! no one wants a relationship full of secrets !
I just used to try and step out of my own shoes and look at it as anoutsider looking in!
Just tell him that you know he is a man and he will always look at other women but you would really appreciate it if he didnt do it under your nose i.e on his phone background and if he has to look at pics of other women then you dont wanna see it !
If you are going through his phone though then you are kind of torturing yourself ! You should both have enough trust to be able to leave each others phones alone ! If you are finding things from actual women texting him or calling then whole new ball game.
Lastly, you need to say what you thing and then let it ly if you stick to your end of the bargain then you cant go wrong ! and then you need to stop thinking how does he want me to look and start saying what do i like !!! MEN LOVE CONFIDENCE !! That doesnt come in the form of a naked g string clad beauty but can be something simple as a girlfriend to come home to that smiles and loves herself ! x Good luck girl xxxxx
They are turned on by the unobtainable and thats just in their make up ! It doesnt mean he loves you any less or even that he fancies you any less !
I had the same situation after i had my daughter and to be honest i think it was more to do with the way i felt about myself ! x I think you need to make a pact together to sit down and say ok we not going to try and change each other but this makes me unhappy , how can we get round it so we are both happy !
I found that if i nagged him and went on about it to him he would just hide it more , it wouldnt stop it ! no one wants a relationship full of secrets !
I just used to try and step out of my own shoes and look at it as anoutsider looking in!
Just tell him that you know he is a man and he will always look at other women but you would really appreciate it if he didnt do it under your nose i.e on his phone background and if he has to look at pics of other women then you dont wanna see it !
If you are going through his phone though then you are kind of torturing yourself ! You should both have enough trust to be able to leave each others phones alone ! If you are finding things from actual women texting him or calling then whole new ball game.
Lastly, you need to say what you thing and then let it ly if you stick to your end of the bargain then you cant go wrong ! and then you need to stop thinking how does he want me to look and start saying what do i like !!! MEN LOVE CONFIDENCE !! That doesnt come in the form of a naked g string clad beauty but can be something simple as a girlfriend to come home to that smiles and loves herself ! x Good luck girl xxxxx
It's true that men DO look at pics of naked women, because they find viduals interesting, but I agree with happyone. If he does it knowing that it upsets you, then he's being insensitive to your feelings.
The thing is hun, pictures are just that - although it might be different if he was ogling pics of your best friend! I'd tend to laugh it off, because you certainly don't need to feel threatened by thtem, unless he'd rather look at those than you.
The thing is hun, pictures are just that - although it might be different if he was ogling pics of your best friend! I'd tend to laugh it off, because you certainly don't need to feel threatened by thtem, unless he'd rather look at those than you.
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