How Many Divorce Titles Are There???

[puddicat]

A colleague at work is going to divorce her husband, it isnt adultery that is the cause, i said it was irrevecol breakdown, sorry about the spelling, what else can she go for????

[Bathsheba]

I think irretrievable breakdown is not a reason on it's own- it has to be proved by another reason, adultery, etc.

[Bathsheba]

**its** own- shame on me, i hate that :-)

[Gormless]

Why does it matter? If 50% of a relationship wants out then there is no point in the other 50% resisting, whatever the reason/excuse, call it what you will.

Look after the kids and the money, in that order.

Divorce stinks, but it is a fact of modern life.

[Ethel]

Irretrievable breakdown of the marriage is the only ground for divorce. Without that there can be no divorce.

Irretrievable breakdown can be shown by:
Adultery
Unreasonable behaviour
Desertion
2 years separation with consent of both parties
5 years separation without.


You see, any of these five things could happen without either party wanting a divorce - only if they have caused the irretrievable breakdown of the marriage will the divorce be granted.

[Bathsheba]

This might help.....http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/FamilyIssu esAndTheLaw/DG_4002976

[puddicat]

She has had enough she justs wants a amicable split, but her husband is giving her a hard time!!

[puddicat]

Would Scottish law be different???

[Gormless]

Law doesn't matter.

2 people, once in love, pledged to spend their lives together, maybe had kids, and one of them doesn't want to anymore.

The reason is totally irrelevant. The situation is irretrievably sad, and should be got on with, kids welfare, then money, in that order.

There are no redeeming features, it is 100% sadness.

[Ethel]

The law does matter, gormless - you need the law to get the divorce

[puddicat]

gormless the law varies, she knows about the emotional dilemma!!!!

[Ethel]

Not much difference in Scottish law, except they specify a sex change as a ground for divorce

http://www.desktoplawyer.co.uk/dt/browse/law/i ndex.cfm?fuseaction=viewcontent&sid=75927&aid= 35179

[Gormless]

The law does NOT matter. The whole thing is completely painful and stinks. Just get on with it, look out for the CHILDREN who may suffer desperately, then only secondarily look to the money.

Divorce is the collapse of a relationship, not a legal thing.

[puddicat]

Gormless as a person who has gone through it, my reasons were different!!!

[puddicat]

Gormless never mentioned money, i am only asking on the behalf of my friend!!!

[Gormless]

Hard to see how?

Without giving too much away, how was your own divorce different from the disintegration of the relationship?

[Ethel]

Gormless, this question is about the legality of divorce - not the emotional side of it.

It is separation and collapse of a long relationship that is painful, not the divorce which is simply the legal ending of the legal marriage.

[puddicat]

Guess!!!

[puddicat]

Thank you ethel exactly what i was trying to say!!!

[Gormless]

A man and woman get married, they pledge to love each other for the rest of their days. Probably they have children. Then one of them wants out. There is no fighting this, there is no "defence". The whole situation is desperately sad, and people who have never been there simply cannot know. Children suffer horribly but are often overlooked as the adults fight. Lawyers make loads of money.

I've been there. The law doesn't really enter your mind when you can't sleep.

[puddicat]

Gormless dont i know it, but you will get over it, you cant make someone love you and if that means a final break so be it!!!