Do I have the powers to halt the contact between my daughtes and my x-partner?

[courage11032]

My x-partner has assulted me once again in front of my two children within an incident in his car a few days ago. He has contact through the courts twice a week and he wants to see the children. It hasnt been a straight forward separation and one that i truly did not want but had no choice in the matter. He has a new girlfriend and just found out that she has two/three children to him. The last being approx 8months old. I am also aware that my children have been in their prescence and to which he has denied totally. These other children are boys and my children are girls. Surely in the eyes of the law that the children if contact is continued will grow up to think that this is accaptable behaviour 'a man hitting a women'. what to do?

[andy hughes]

You need to see a solicitor and find out where you stand legally on the issues you have raised. The sooner the better.

[Lindy Loo]

I'd go along with that andy. I believe that no child should be subject to this type of behaviour because they do learn from these 'messages' . As you also posted here, http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Parenting/Question66518.html there has obviously been alot going on for you and the children which takes time to adjust to/ cope with. ( I agree with answers on that post too) It is inevitable that all the children will meet, particulary if your ex is living with his new girlfriend. As much as this hurts and upsets you, this is his new family and he bound to want to include your girls in this. You need to try and concentrate on the life you have with your girls, as hard as it will be to start with. I won't post what I think about your ex's treatment of you but he sounds extremely insensitive and selfcentred. I think it's enough to say you have my sympathy. Plus the editor will tell me off!! Bohne is right (other post)...you don't know what he has told HER.... she may end up in the same position as you in the future! Take care and good luck

[Philtaz]

As others have said see a solicitor and get out an injunction. Ensure that it is one that has a power of arrest caveat with it.