getting a life after divorce !

[jojo1368]

hi

have just had my divorce finalised and am feeling little lost. I have recently had to move and change jobs so don't realy have any friends yet.

has anyone got any sensible ideas on how to meet people and try to have a social life. Am also skint due to the change of jobs ect but dont want to sit in all my life :)

thanks in advance

[lil123]

I was in the same situation as you jojo.
I just went out looking at things I could join in at and evening classes etc.
The job I have now I have made so many new friends and getting a car again too as made all the difference as I can travel and see my old friends too.
I have a new boyfriend now and go out with him to places.
Just sit and think what you want your life to be like and work on it that's all I have done

[elaine33]

Hi, I do not know where you live but if there is a local Ceroc class close by (type Ceroc into the internet to find their websites) get yourself along and you will meet the nicest friendliest people in the world. You will learn a great social dance (modern jive), it will make you fitter, and you will be 100% happier within 6 weeks.
failing that try some volunteer work with young people, such as a youth centre, or your local hospital may well have need of volunteers. Good luck, stay positive and things will soon look brighter.

[miss skippy]

5 years ago I moved right away from everything, I changed my job, left my partner and sold my house. I was 45 and it was the right thing at the time but then discovered like you, I was lonely. I heard about a club which caters for every one that is single whatever the circumstance (although everyone is mainly between 35 and 70). This is not a dating club it's social. It has a committee and all the members (of which there are over 200) help to plan events. We have trips to the pictures, restaurants, day trips to France, parties in peoples houses, go bowling, sunday walks and loads of other things. We are also lucky to have Ceroc and Dance Riviera near by. These also cater for single people. I think every town should have a club like this. We meet in a local hotel bar every Monday so it's called the Monday club. Maybe you should try your library and see if they have anywhere near to you that runs things for single people. If not, when you find other single friends, start up a Monday club. I met the most wonderful man at the club not long after I joined, we have been together over 4 years. Good luck.

[happyone2]

i belong to portsmouth inter varsity club ( can find it on the internet ) and we have a social diary full of things to do, like walks, theatre cinema, meals........................

every one was everso friendly when i joined and made me feel so welcome.........it really helped

[sqad617]

no knowledge.......LNER..2001..name?

[jojo1368]

thx for your ideas everyone xx

pmsl @ trainspotting :)

[madmaggot]

After my divorce I didn't go out for ages but then decided that I would accept any invitation from anyone regardless of whether I thought I would enjoy it or not! However, I always took my own car so that I could leave whenever I chose. By doing this I regained the confidence that my divorce had sapped and also met new friends.