Why go guys have trust issues with girls?

[selinamc]

Ive been seeing this guy for a few weeks now who split up with his ex 2 years ago and had 2 kids with. Ive only been on a 3 dates with him but hes already said to me he thinks im not girlfriend material and im clingy even though there wasnt a relationship for either of us to be clingy in. He apologised to me for sying this telling me that he was in a foul mood at the time and didnt mean half of what he said and said to if i want to try again that is cool.
However, since i have been talking to him online he keeps contradicting himself firstly saying he wants to be friends and doesnt want a relationship and then saying he wants to settle down but hes not willing to give me a chance and give things ago. How can I get him to trust me and give me a chance?

[sara3]

consider this..
1) he doesn't know what he wants
2) he says things then changes his mind
3) he sounds a little... unstable to me.

is this what you're looking for in a man?

[naflharrison]

to be honest with the little we know about him i would say dont bother, any bloke who plays mind games at all let alone in the first few wks is not worth having, can you imagine what it could be like mths down the line. this is the time with the start of anything where its meant to be good and fun and sexy but he just sounds like he wants someone to play with, has he told you why hes not with his ex anymore, maybe its this reason.

[selinamc]

I did ask why hes not with her anymore but he just responded by saying shes just not a very nice person, also when shes out having a drink. She might of cheated on him, but didnt say what she did.

[terambulan]

Have you tried fishing? You hook it....let it swim for a bit then pull it in closer.....swim for a bit more then net it and bash it on the head!

Release this fish......he's a badden.

[Curly13]

If I were you, I would forget him. Most guys are on their 'best behaviour' when you first start dating them and if has upset you (or at least made you concerned enough to post on here) already, I would say don't get involved. He sounds like he doesn't know what he wants.
You can do better than that!

[Ice.Maiden]

It's a no-no hun. x

[legendis.god]

sadly women are very good at lying.
hence why they have been used many times either by secret services or police in honey traps and mata hari type liasons.


so in answer to th e question posed here " why do guys have trust issues with women "

well id say because , and i know this is a generalisation.but women do have a tendancy to lie .


obviously thats merely my opinion.
but you did post askin for opinions and i have given mine



hope that helps ?

[pastafreak]

Oh dear^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ .....

[Ice.Maiden]

I think it can work both ways. Must admit that the guys I've met've been pretty straight-forward, but there are plenty who aren't. Having said that, whichever way round you look at it, not everybody's the same. If a someone proves themselves to be trustworthy, then they're going to attract the same.

[Ripcord]

Well he sounds like a real player honey, just ask yourself "does he really deserve me?" I think you are worth more than him simply because you are showing you care enough to salvage something, even though it may not be there to begin with! Get yourself out on New Years Eve, party on down and see what the new year brings!! You know, off with the old - on with the new, good luck!

[pastafreak]

Mmmmm..I consider myself to be trustworthy, but....... :-(

[Ice.Maiden]

You are, pasta, you are. As with selinamc, someone'll realise your qualities one day.

[selinamc]

i wudnt say hes a player, hes just been put off relationships because hes so scard by his ex for whatever the reason is. But its no excuse to play games with me i know, unless he eventually warms to me to build up that trust and chnage his mind but im not guna wait around for him.
AS u sed, its better to go out enjoy myself while meeting other guys that arnt this complicated. to be honest, most of the guys ive met r straight fwd, hes possible the most comlpicated ive ever met.
thanx ice maiden, i hope some will lol.

[pastafreak]

It is a fact that most of us LIKE the complicated ones........anyone know why????

[legendis.god]

well i certainly dont


the simple ones are complex enough



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[Ice.Maiden]

It's the challenge hun - but not always good to live with someone like that.

[pastafreak]

Icey....did you hear someone say something?????

[Velvetee]

Dump him, he's a problem case.